EPISODE · Jan 24, 2026 · 10 MIN
#4 Gay Men: Letting Go of Friendships That Don’t Fit
from Second Best To Seen | The Coaching Sessions for Gay Men · host David Allison SMACCPH
You know that friendship...The one that has been running on autopilot for years. Maybe you grew up together. Maybe you survived something hard together. But now? You leave every catch-up feeling drained instead of lifted.Yet you stay.But here is the hard truth we are tackling in this session. Letting go isn't about being disloyal. It is about being honest with yourself.We are going to look at the conflict between the part of you that wants to be a "good friend" and the part of you that just wants some peace.Plus, I am sharing three practical ways to help you:Spot the good intention behind your loyalty so you can stop beating yourself up.Shift your view from "losing a friend" to simply "making space."Visualise the change so you can feel the relief before you even have the conversation.You don’t have to burn bridges just to build boundaries. But you do have to stop setting yourself on fire to keep everyone else warm.Let’s keep talking:If you are ready to stop using compliance to buy safety and want to be in a room with other men doing this exact work, come and join us in The Freedom Community. It is my free coaching space where checking in with yourself becomes automatic.And for daily reminders that your boundaries aren't selfish, come say hi on Instagram.David 💚🏳️🌈
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You know that friendship...The one that has been running on autopilot for years. Maybe you grew up together. Maybe you survived something hard together. But now? You leave every catch-up feeling drained instead of lifted.Yet you stay.But here is the hard truth we are tackling in this session. Letting go isn't about being disloyal. It is about being honest with yourself.We are going to look at the conflict between the part of you that wants to be a "good friend" and the part of you that just wants some peace.Plus, I am sharing three practical ways to help you:Spot the good intention behind your loyalty so you can stop beating yourself up.Shift your view from "losing a friend" to simply "making space."Visualise the change so you can feel the relief before you even have the conversation.You don’t have to burn bridges just to build boundaries. But you do have to stop setting yourself on fire to keep everyone else warm.Let’s keep talking:If you are ready to stop using compliance to buy safety and want to be in a room with other men doing this exact work, come and join us in The Freedom Community. It is my free coaching space where checking in with yourself becomes automatic.And for daily reminders that your boundaries aren't selfish, come say hi on Instagram.David 💚🏳️🌈
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