#4: How Do You Initiate Sex If You Have Responsive Desire?

Responsive desire is when you struggle to, "get in the mood" for sex on your own, you only really get into it when your partner initiates and then you enjoy it. But what do you do when you have responsive desire and your sex life has fallen flat? How do you initiate sex if either you have responsive desire, BOTH of you have responsive desire (especially if you're Queer) or where you've both gotten into a situation where both of you are scared to initiate? Here's how you can start taking responsibility for your own turn on, desire, and sexuality and learn how to turn yourself on first. I cover: There is difference between spontaneous and responsive desire Why there are other models and blueprints for desire Deconstructing what desire is in the first place and why it's NOT the same as libido and getting horny More recent research that ALL desire is responsive desire because you're responding to internal biological processes (like hormones) When you outsource your turn on to your partner, is this empowering you? Why it's about turning YOURSELF on Practical suggestions for turning yourself on in every day life If the sex that you've been having has been problematic, is it any surprise you don't feel any desire for it? Why you're already feeling desire but it doesn't necessarily mean you want to have sex Follow the breadcrumbs to turn yourself on What to do if you and your partner both have responsive desire Foreplay starts at the beginning of your last orgasm How to turn yourself on when you have no time, energy, or fucks to give: https://bit.ly/ReKindleTheSparkBook Want to connect more? For the shameless sexual confidence, pleasure and deep satisfaction you’ve been craving, head here: ⁠https://lucyrowett.com/⁠ Free video class on authentic sexual confidence: ⁠https://bit.ly/moreconfidentinbed⁠ Free PDF on how to confidently ask for what you want in bed: ⁠https://bit.ly/askforwhatyoureallywant Learn more about working together 1:1 here: http://lucyrowett.com/sex-intimacy-relationship-coaching/ Social media links: IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/lucylurowett⁠ TT: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/⁠ FB: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/lucyrowettcsc⁠ LI: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/lucy-rowe...⁠ Credits: Produced and Hosted by: Lucy Rowett Cover Art by: Lucy Rowett Music by: Tom M at Filmstro