#4: Niki Sterner | From Fixed Mindset to Growth

When was the last time you let fear of failure stop you from pursuing something important? This candid conversation dives deep into the paralyzing effects of a fixed mindset and reveals how believing "if I'm bad at something, that's my forever thing" can keep us stuck for decades.Through vulnerable storytelling, we explore a transformative approach to rediscovering and pursuing long-buried dreams. The "three lists" exercise—identifying childhood heroes (Star List), acknowledging natural talents (Success List), and confronting fears (Scared List)—creates a roadmap for authentic growth. Rather than waiting to feel ready, we discover how deliberately seeking discomfort builds the courage muscle and generates momentum.What's particularly fascinating is the mindset routine shared that transforms pre-performance anxiety into excited anticipation. By clearing negative thoughts with a neutral statement ("The first blizzard is December 1st") followed by empowering affirmations, we can rewire our emotional response to high-pressure situations. This technique, adapted from sports psychology, proves remarkably effective for creative expression and public speaking.The conversation takes a powerful turn when discussing how women can lift each other up in creative pursuits. There's a palpable shift happening from competition to community, where seeing another woman succeed becomes inspiring rather than threatening. By sharing our authentic voices and supporting others doing the same, we create ripple effects that expand possibilities for everyone.Ready to stop overthinking and start taking bold action? Grab the free Confidence Kickstart Morning Routine in the show notes—it's the daily practice that's helping thousands build sustainable confidence through consistent habits rather than waiting for courage to magically appear.New episodes every week — packed with honest conversations, mindset tools, and real-life shortcuts to help you move before you feel ready, build confidence through action, and create your Bigger Life.📌 Subscribe + share if you're ready to stop overthinking and finally move forward messy.💛 For weekly inspiration, podcast updates, book launch news, 50-State Courage Tour adventures, and practical tools to help you move before you feel ready, join the Move Forward Messy Newsletter.✨ Grab your free Confidence Kickstart Guide.