41. Too Opinionated to Be Liked - When You Have Strong Opinions and Rejection Sensitivity

Ever felt like you're too opinionated to be liked? Like the moment you share an actual opinion, you're already replaying it in your head wondering if you've ruined something?Yeah. Us too.In this episode of Too Much Apparently, we (Carly and Alice - two therapists and recovering perfectionists with squishy brains) get real about what it's like to be someone with strong views AND a nervous system that takes rejection like a full-body event. The double bind of caring enough to have opinions, and caring enough to be devastated when those opinions aren't received well.We unpack our own resistance, spiral in real-time, and share what it's like to want to be honest while also being scared it might be too much, too intense, too political, too feminist, too angry.This time we talked about:🎙️ We've felt this thing too: burning opinions stuck in your throat, the 3-day spiral after speaking up, the car ride home rehearsing what you should have said instead👀 What it looks like in real life: biting your tongue at family dinners, drafting messages you never send, going quiet at work and feeling like a fraud, crying in the car after a dinner party🧠 Why our brains do it: rejection sensitivity, how women get called "opinionated" when men get called "passionate," and the way new rejections hook back into old ones🧍🏽‍♀️🧍🏻 The different ways it shows up: the impulsive blurter, the 300-years-of-thinking-then-saying-it person, the one who's gone so quiet she's lost track of what she thinks🧰 Coping mechanisms: choosing your rooms, finding people who can hold complexity, checking in with people afterwards instead of catastrophising on your own🌱 How to make peace with it: your opinions aren't the problem - the rooms you've been sharing them in might beThanks for listening           💛💜🩷🩵🧡💬 New episodes every Monday.🎧 Follow now to join the conversation.🧡 CONNECT WITH US 🎙️ Podcast socials: → Instagram: @toomuchapparently → TikTok: @toomuchapparently → YouTube: Too Much, Apparently → Website: www.toomuchapparently.com→ Substack: Too Much, Apparently👩‍💻 Carly Radford: → Website: www.carlyradford.com → Instagram: @the_sensitivity_therapist👩🏻‍💻 Alice Tew: → Website: www.alicetew.com → Instagram: @reparentingwithalice📩 Email us: [email protected] 🗓️ New episodes every MondayThis is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we’re here for it.Disclaimer: Just a quick note to say this podcast isn’t therapy, and it’s not a substitute for professional support. We’re here to share ideas and experiences, but if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a support service near you.