#41 What Actually Helps in Crisis (Part 2): Erik Ellefsen on Showing Up, Supporting Others, and Leading Well

In Part 1, Erik Ellefsen shared the deeply personal reality of living with long-term illness. In this second part, we turn outward.What does it actually look like to support someone incrisis? Not in theory - but in real life.Drawing from his 17-year journey with serious illness, Erik reflects on the people who showed up, the ones who didn’t, and the lessons that have stayed with him over time. We explore the tension many people feel, wanting to help, but not knowing how.We talk about the overlooked role of the caregiver, the importance of simple presence, and why small, thoughtful actions often matter more than big gestures.This conversation also has important implications for leaders, particularly in schools, churches, and communities.Why are we often unprepared when crisis hits?What does meaningful leadership look like in those momentsAnd how can we create environments where people feel seen, supported, and not alone?There’s no perfect script. But there are better ways to show up and this episode will help you think differently about what that looks like.In this episode, you’ll discover:What support really looks like in the early stages of crisis and how it changes over time Why people often step back, even when they care deeply The tension between “just tell me what you need” and not having the energy to respondWhy caring for the caregiver is often just as important as caring for the person who is unwell How simple presence can matter more than having the right words or answers What leaders in schools, churches, and communities can do to better prepare for crisis How looking outward and serving others can bring life, even in the middle of your own struggleAbout our Guest:Erik Ellefsen is an educator, leadership consultant, and trusted voice in Christian education across the United StatesCurrently serving as Director of Networks and Improvement at Baylor UniversityHost of the ⁠Digical Education⁠ podcast Explore More from Resilient Souls: Resilient Souls ⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠Resilient Souls ⁠⁠⁠⁠Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠ or search ‘Resilient Souls’ wherever you get your podcastsResilient Souls ⁠⁠⁠⁠Blog on Substack⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Stewart’s ⁠⁠Book⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow Resilient Souls on: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠ / ⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram /⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠Get Involved or Reach Out: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join the Community⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Book Stewart to Speak⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Support the Work⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Contact Us⁠⁠⁠⁠Need Help? In ⁠⁠Australia⁠⁠⁠⁠ or for ⁠⁠⁠⁠Overseas⁠⁠