411. The Grief of Getting What You Want

This episode is raw, tender, and so deeply personal that I seriously considered not publishing (more on that in the next one). It's my reflection of the past two years and how this transition into all of these big, beautiful things that have come into my life, including marrying my incredible man, moving countries, and building a whole new life has also come with a lot of challenges I didn't expect. From ego deaths and complete loss of various identities to loneliness, emotional contradictions, and a whole lot of healing while learning to step into a much more honest, vulnerable and embodied version of myself.  This is the part of manifestation that doesn't always get talked about: you can hope and pray and work towards something for so long, and then when it all comes together, it may require you to grieve expectations of timelines, survival patterns, unmet needs, self-abandonment, and the parts of yourself that once kept you safe. And sometimes, there can still be grief found in the joys of healthy love, being fully seen, and creating the life you always dreamed of. The biggest lesson to me is that grief becomes transformative once you no longer treat it like an obstacle to your becoming. I'd love to hear from you on this one. Let me know if you can relate   REFERENCES Episode #371: Lessons on Learning How to Receive Love in a Healthy Relationship Episode #366: Self Love, Loneliness & Learning to Like Yourself   CONNECT WITH EMILY Book a Connection Call With Emily To Work Together Follow Emily on Instagram: @emilygoughcoach Website: https://emilygoughcoaching.com/  BOOK: "You Grow Me: The Next Level Human Philosophy of Love, Sex and Romantic Connection