you do not need a feeling of insufficiency in order to motivate yourself to go and become a better version of yourself you can do that simply because you want to become better simply because your time on this earth is limited and in that time you want to make the most of your minutes here and leave the world in a better place than you found it that does not mean that you need to feel terrified and insignificant and broken and fragile and insufficient without making progress if progress is not going to fill the hole that you feel inside of yourself that hole can only be filled by you feeling like you are enough already hello everybody i'm back i'm back i made it i made it back from austin all the way to the uk that flight nearly destroyed me because it was 24 hours basically without me sleep but i managed to catch up and woke up to find it hit 250 000 subscribers on youtube which is good news see that was the outcome goal the one outcome goal that we had for the channel this year was 250 000 subs before christmas we've done it with three days four days to spare so still considering the win as is tradition thought that i would do a q a episode and there were a lot of questions i'm very sorry i didn't get to yours either i haven't had time or it wasn't interesting enough so uh yeah let's get into it george mack what podcast yours or others have you re-listened to the most naval on joe rogan that's podcast it's the best podcast of all time as far as i'm concerned it's absolutely phenomenal if you haven't listened to it go check it out naval just drops calm mind-blowing wisdom for a couple of hours and then leaves and then says i'm not for a long long time because i want to have new thoughts the guys that is just such a pat force of nature awesome awesome episode sam flatt any thoughts on how you approach political arguments these days just seems pointless debating anything regarding politics gender race etc as everyone is convinced they're right yes humor is a really really good tool for this and this is something i realized recently that if you try and take it too seriously and i'm aware that these can be serious topics but if you can approach them with a little bit of humor people are it allows a let-off valve for all the people in the conversation it stops it from getting too serious so whenever i don't talk about it that much it's a culture war issue but in outside of the show i'm not really that bothered like it's it is a big cost that you have to pay and i'm not very interested in the outcomes at least not personally so use humor like remember that it's just a game and everybody's going to die and in three generations no one will remember your name so taking anything too seriously seems a little bit dumb especially stuff which isn't directly applicable to you like these are group dynamics that you're talking about here so remember that's all game col campbell have you felt compelled to share your stance on how covid has been slash is being handled vaccinations and lockdowns and masks and more it seems many other podcasters have diverted their content toward this topic more than wisdom and are you going to break the spotify app with five star ratings now that spotify podcast ratings have been launched okay so second question first yes uh if you haven't checked your spotify app you can now rate you can give star ratings like an apple podcast on spotify so if you haven't done that already please find modern wisdom and go and give me five stars that would make me very very happy i want to hit 1k because we've got thousands reviews on apple podcasts and i need the same on spotify so we'll do that link will be somewhere uh have i felt compelled to share my stance on how covid hasn't been handled so yes what you've seen is a lot of podcasters have become what's called audience captured so they found that they can get clout and plays and money through plays by leaning into either a pro or an anti-vaccine pro or anti-lockdown message the whole covid thing to me is it would take an awful lot of research to have a sufficiently well researched opinion the background reading that i need to do in order for me to get to the level of competence and understanding around covid that i would need is higher than i'm prepared to put in and there are so many other podcasters out there that are leaning into this topic plus it just seems like the information is very very difficult to pass david fuller from rebel wisdom has done more reading than pretty much anyone i know on the planet and even he still has questions around this so yeah i've purposefully kind of steered away from that if a guest wants to talk about it i'm happy to have a chat but i i don't fancy adding more noise into the tiny tiny amount of signal that's out there about covid i'm not an epidemiologist i'm not a virologist i don't understand public health i have my own opinions but this is quite a serious situation so i think you know letting the experts speak at least on this one like this is the one that i cannot give my cod psychology bro science opinion on i'll leave the experts to this one terry the tough cunt someone somewhere sometime did the biggest fart in the history of humanity question what country and what era do you think they were from guesses on duration i love everything about this question including the name um what country what person in time would have had the most well it's gonna be modern day i think more processed foods in the modern day i mean there's some there's some big boys in america i saw some big boys while i was traveling um but then they eat lots and lots of greens in somewhere like japan and you can imagine some little japanese grandmother just cracking out a big one there's a big fat one out of nowhere uh i'm gonna go with the little japanese lady i'm gonna say modern day japan like just a village in japan uh guess it's on duration well what are you looking for here is the biggest fart how long it went for because she could just squeeze a little one out for a long amount of time or is it a is it the volume of gas that's left or is it the size of the noise is it how loud the actual fart itself was um if i was in a situation i can't see how much longer than about a five second five seconds of actual gas passage i don't think you can beat that so i'll say five seconds could have heard it easily could have heard it next door maybe two houses away uh japanese lady uh real paul dano do you regret talking to gadsad after the gurus pod so for people who aren't aware of what any of this means there is a podcast called decoding gurus they featured an episode that i did with gadsad and they had some less than complimentary things to say about it and then i went on their podcast to do a right reply and kind of explain my position and stuff and that that seemed to go down really well i was really happy with it with the response of people to my response um i don't regret speaking to gads at all no that whole process of being featured on decoding the gurus and then speaking to the guys afterwards has been really really valuable i mean it wasn't very comfortable it was like it's not nice to have someone critique something that you really really care about but some of the things that they brought up have led me to become a better podcaster so i'm authoritative the ends justified means even if the means were kind of pretty shitty at least in terms of my experience aaron has herpes what do you feel has been the formula slash circumstances that significantly increased your popularity on youtube and i don't know again fucking boy one absolutely awesome username i don't know where we're at with youtube at the moment it still feels i i'm a bit biased right but i think that modern wisdom is hopelessly undersubscribed and press subscribe obviously i'm done already but like i really really i've always loved the conversations i've always loved the guests that we've had on here if i wasn't running the show i would subscribe to it and that's why i made it um when i look at some stuff out there that is crushing it in terms of plays i do sometimes think like what are we missing i don't know what it is i know that we're doing well and a quarter million subs is nothing to sniff at but maybe it's just a case of playing catch-up uh maybe the difference i feel like there's a difference between the quality of the content the quality of the conversations and where the channel is at and i feel like that there's still a lot of low-hanging fruit for us to pick up but the biggest difference this year has been that we got really serious about clips we did a rebrand so all the thumbnails are really nice and beautiful and they're all consistently designed so you can kind of got the signature style you know that it's us just simple stuff and then you know continuing to pick up good name guests but then you know you look at an episode like vincent harranam or adam lane smith these guys are essentially nobodies right internet in terms of internet cloud they're nobodies you put them on the internet and have an awesome conversation with them and it absolutely bangs so focusing on clips making sure that we were consistent with that improving the quality of the thumbnails just like little things but personally i'm hoping that there is a we feel like we're in a hockey stick right i'm really hoping that this just is the very beginning of the hockey stick and we've got tons of headroom above also if you want to help just comment for the algo in fact you can comment commenting for the algo just do that whenever you see an episode just click on it and comment and then we can speed up this manipulating youtube algorithm in a completely unethical way alana marie one why is it so stressful to try and niche down good question so i'm guessing that this is someone who's a creator what she's referring to is that when you begin a channel often given advice is that you're supposed to niche down you're supposed to find a particular microcosm of a broader subject area and you're supposed to really focus on that because it means you can find love within a community very quickly the reason it's so stressful to do that is that by choosing to do one thing very very tightly you're choosing to say no to all of the other things that you could be doing so that causes you to it's just fomo basically you're looking at all of the other topics that you might be able to do and thinking oh well by focusing on fitness that means that all of my insights about fucking cryptocurrency they're not going to work or because i'm going to do things to do with cooking at home that means that my dog walking content is going to go down the pan so you need to give up one thing for another thing you by niching down you are inevitably saying no to a whole bunch of other stuff which is why choosing the niche is really important but that being said i'm not the best person to speak to about niches and i just stuck my middle finger up at niches and decided to speak to you know a porn star and a philosopher and a psychologist and whatever back to back to back um so personally depending on what the type of content is i think you can get away with rapid growth without niching down and if you want to do it you are going to suffer some stress especially if you have a wide range of interests if you're going to see all the things that interesting buffet options that you are not choosing to look at adam dixon 95 do you limit your phone use and if so what strategies do you use yes i do massive into phone reduction and tech reduction so sleep with your phone outside of your bedroom don't use your phone before a certain time and don't use it after a certain time so like intermittent fasting for your phone all of the apps off your main home screen remove serious search so you can't search for it uh and see the one there's another one that i mean do that do those things and you will change you will have a hugely redefined relationship with your phone oh take social media off your main phone and get i have a second phone which is for instagram and twitter and stuff and that is why if i only go out of the house i can't use social media um those those make a huge difference even just sleeping outside of your room and the don't use it before time and don't use it after time that's a game changer mindful mitch would you rather fight a komodo dragon or a drunk pitbull do you mean do you mean pitbull the rapper drunk or do you mean a dog which has been inebriated because pitbull the rapper kind of looks like he's drunk all the time and i i don't know i feel like a drunk pitbull dog would make it easier to fight and i think a komodo dragon is already pretty i give me pitbull i want i don't want because you've been insufficiently precise with your language here i don't want a drunk pitbull the dog i'll take on pitbull the rapper drunk any day of the week and i'll feed him to the komodo dragon once i'm finished anything that would make your life more fulfilling right now from jojo mcclath um more impact i think would be it's gonna be one of the things i push for next year um i really want to use we work hard at building a platform right and although i still feel like we're hopelessly undersubscribed that we get to reach you know a few million people a month and i really want next year to try and push a lot to do things that optimize for impact and optimize making people's lives better i did a free end of year review template process thing which you can get if you haven't done your interview review yet it'll appear up here chriswillx.com slash review you can get it for free um and that was cool people messaged me and said hey man just want to let you know i've finished the end of your review i've got really clear about the things i want next year and it made me feel very very cool so mostly stuff like that more high impact things but life's pretty fulfilling as it is so yeah if i can beat where i'm at the moment i'll be pretty impressed connor babidas what is something that motivates you to make content i've been watching you for some time now and it seems very grueling and intimidating to get interviews and put out podcasts when you're just starting how do you cope with that and work through it um there's two separate questions here so motivating me to get through the grueling side and then intimidating when you first start intimidating when you first start just don't take it too seriously know that you're basically go you're a noob right you're a white belt whatever it is you're trying to pursue so just treat it like that okay you're going to mess up more times than you're successful for the first however long that you do whatever your pursuit is you know let's use content creation for that but it's the same you're gonna fuck up over and over and over and over again just accept that okay this is just another lesson that i need to add to the pile and every single time you get one of those it is one time fewer that you're going to make a mistake in future so that would be that that's exactly how i saw it when i first started like it's skill acquisition and this is a skill which is incredibly complex and lots and lots and lots of people are very very good at and if i compare myself to them then i'm going to feel like terrible uh and then something that motivates me now i guess to keep going is it's like a habit man like if i didn't have two to three conversations for a couple hours a week i would feel like there was something wrong i would feel like i don't know like i'm thirsty and need a drink but the drink is a conversation it's just it shows the power of routine look at a really punishing schedule which i still find difficult and yet when you slowly build it up over time you go from one week to two weeks to three weeks plus guesting plus editing plus clips on youtube plus content on youtube plus newsletter plus everything else like you just get there step by step and that's the whole it takes 10 years to become an overnight success thing you look at people that have been doing whatever it is for a long long long time and you think god they seem almost superhuman and you don't realize that all that they've done is taken some very very very slow steps over time consistently and they get there and to them they're just like oh this is just what i do like yeah i'm all right at this but yeah slowly slowly that's what you do uh m m laycock m laycock 23 love your openness to chat and learn with decoding gurus very refreshing thank you yes i was the first person actually that asked to go back on to go and have a chat with them that was one of the more um not stressful but i was excited like i was really really excited to go and speak to them and and sort of put myself up against two guys that are they can be quite disagreeable they're smart dudes they're quick um and i was looking forward to having a conversation and it was it went better than i think any of us could have hoped and me and chris kavanagh the host of decoding gurus had already had this big three hour chat so i really had a sensation that it could be really good and like a really amazing episode and ended up being great so i appreciate you guys for being good sports and letting me come on inexorable what belief slash beliefs do you hold that you suspect your subscribers would most disagree on or find surprising so i've i really got changed by the conversation i had with andrew gold when he spoke about spending time with pedophiles and pedo criminals uh the difference being the pedophiles are attracted to children and pedo criminals act on it but pedophiles don't they sort of understand that their sexuality is something which they can't act on and um just increasingly the more i learn about that section of the world people who are born with an attraction to children and choose not to act on it but are still they still feel incredibly alienated from society and you know unsurprisingly the belief would be that pedophiles it seems to me like they need a they need sympathy um you know we need to find a way to make these people that don't choose to act on their impulses but they they are working hard to try and control something which they've just been cursed with no they didn't choose their sexuality you do not get to choose what you are sexually attracted to and yet somebody who's working so hard simply to try and not do something that they know all the society is going to hate them for but then finding out that they they're alienated and you know lambasted by all the society like it just it makes me feel real uncomfortable i don't know what the solution is either and like we should be understanding of people who aren't acting on their impulses but do find children attractive is i mean that's not particularly popular line of thinking and you know people that read tabloids it's quite easy to like lock them up lock them up fucking monsters and you go well yeah the ones that act on it i'm happy to castrate them but the ones that don't like they didn't choose to be this way and this that's just my empathy kicking in that i really struggle to just imagine that like imagine that that was the way you were born that that was what life had gifted you as your sexual proclivity could have been gay could have been straight could have swung both ways no i had to get given this and yeah that's something that increasingly i think will be more and more of a conversation right we need to integrate people in society so that'll be one jake rook thoughts on bitcoin as i think this is supposed to be thoughts on bitcoin but you spell it as thoughts so i'm going to talk about thoughts on bitcoin and yes you are right there are loads and loads of girls that look like they should be on only fans that promote crypto and nfts and what you're saying there is basically decentralized only fans all you've got is girls who are fit with big instagram followings or big twitter followings talking about nft drops and stuff and then guys want to simp for them are buying these nfts or investing in this crypto thing hoping that they're going to get attention from the girl that talked about it so that is my thoughts on thoughts on bitcoin sam h snith do you think that the podcast space develops ideas or does it simply propagate the ideas individuals have on their own that is a fucking great question um this is from the locals by the way which has some terrifyingly smart people in one of the locals is like a radically sensible group of cultists um so i definitely think that there's new things that come out of it because when two people are putting their ideas forward and they're focused on conversation in front of them they can end up synthesizing things in a new way for instance yeah for instance i had a conversation with vincent harranam a little while ago and neither of us said it but both of us realized that one of the implications of having a vast class of underclass of sexless men and women who are struggling to find a partner which is open across their dominance hierarchy one of the potential solutions probably an unpopular one would be to have one woman sorry one man with many women and just pick the men that are the most famous of the world right he can fund the lives of 30 000 women the same as one millionaire now i'm not proposing that as an idea however that was something that neither of us had thought of before that podcast so i do think that it develops ideas however there is a lot of just regurgitation and i see this in myself right like i'm having a conversation with somebody about something they bring up a topic and i have my answer i have the line that i have said in the past so good podcasters try when that comes up to reassess okay do i just release the same sequence of words i usually do or should i try and assess whether or not i have a new insight around this and that's really really difficult especially if you're podcasting multiple times a week because you don't have a bottomless pit of things to tap into you know you're not this endless well of insights so you are going to repeat yourself um however i think that there are some new things that come out of the podcast space how many people act on them and make changes in the world because of it it's probably a different question uh hawaii escape co did you know the petersons are going to recruit you to teach what will you teach uh so that isn't my announcement about the petersons i'm afraid that's a swing and miss the hawaii escape co uh that's not what's happening next year but fly basher just curious can't find any interviews with women on the scroll down of your page do you only talk to men and is that on purpose slash what you've based your podcast on uh you haven't found enough i'm afraid there are many interviews with women on there and a lemke this year has been one of the most played um however it is much easier to find men who want to say yes uh the public intellectual space is still dominated by men if you look at most of the people that are writing non-fiction in the areas that i talk about it is dominated by men so there's a skew that way and being honest it is easier to get men to say yes to come on podcast i don't know why but my strike rate with getting guys on is easier i definitely don't have i'll have my biases i'm aware of but there's no i don't think i'm not gonna get that person on because it's a woman i'm going out of my way to try and find interesting women to speak to but you know if you've got suggestions if you have it's the same thing i always say whenever someone pipes up and says there's not enough of whatever type of person my first answer my question back is who do you suggest who do you want from the subgroup so if you can't find interviews with women on the podcast what women would you like me to speak to tell me and i'll get their emails and i will reach out to them if they're interesting zero gratification favorite bring me the horizon song song slash era fucking great question uh uh probably stem paternal's got to be the album um because that was just that that entire live show was amazing the production was phenomenal me and everybody went to go and see them at manchester maybe again i think it was just it was outstanding and then oh was that drown was that uh whatever the one with the umbrella was i don't know but that and probably avalanche favorite song politically homeless how can you bring in new people that may not be on the radar but who have ideas that deserve to be explored this is a fucking awesome question as well so increasingly now as the show grows and as we do more and more plays and get more and more reach this is this shit fires me up so much finding someone that is an absolute animal and doesn't yet have a platform and now i can be that person who can take this little unknown rough human diamond and just give them enough uh boost boost that signal and they can go and absolutely smash it so adam lane smith is a perfect example of that from this year he did this awesome twitter thread i saw it i said if he can podcast one fucking tenth as well as he can tweet this guy's gonna be an animal sure enough came on smash it second most highly played episode of the year which is behind this john peterson and then adam lane smith nobody's psychotherapist from the middle of fuck knows bumfuck and that that gases me up so much so interesting so cool that i can now be a magnifying glass or a megaphone for people who really deserve it who've got talent but just haven't managed to find a platform vincent harranam's the same thing lauren johnson that um mental performance coach who worked with the new york yankees for years exactly the same and then adam goes and does uh michael peterson's podcast and launches course there's a bunch of other things lauren johnson after she did me she went and did ben bergeron's show uh vincent harranam john peterson reached out to me and said that he wants an introduction to him after the episode i did so it's it's so cool like that's the best thing and it's it's weird because i can still remember the time you know when you begin a podcast where you're desperately asking for other people's assistance to grow your clout and that's not to say i'm not still doing that but i can be that person now for other people and that's like it's so dope uh lyndon wonder if you think there is a small town mentality in the northeast that keeps a lot of people from venturing very far both spiritually mentally and physically yes absolutely i mean this is probably the same anywhere right small town mentality people that are born live and die here they find their partners here they get married here they have their kids here their kids maybe even go to the same school that they did they're in a similar catran area it's probably the same all over the world but it's a part of the northeast that makes me like kind of uncomfortable it's like the small mindedness is is my least favorite part of it and i go out of my way to find if you look at the list of friends i have that from the northeast that people that you wouldn't think were from there and that's not to say there's nothing that there's something wrong with a small town mentality but it's not the sort of life that i want to live and that means that if i'm not careful i'll start to adopt a bunch of values from people that i don't want to communicate myself so yeah it absolutely does and if that's you if you're around those people then just find yourself a new community of people they are out there it's a little bit more difficult to find and you know spit and so just salt of the earth working class towns whatever ryan gham ryan cam have you ever have you ever had a guest who's that much of a dickhead that you had to not air the episode so i've never had someone be a dickhead but maybe one in 50 just don't go very well and i'll choose to not air it for a couple reasons firstly it doesn't show the guests in a good light like if i have a conversation with someone and it's just not that interesting or they're not in that game or they're not making sense like it's not good for them so let's say it's for a publisher or it's for the new book or whatever it's not good for them to have that content out there and you guys dedicate you know an hour or 19 minutes three times a week to the podcast and although i could hopefully ride the waves of a few months worth of like subpar episodes and you would still come back and listen for more and i am conscious of the fact that there is a high competition for people's attention online and you're really only as good as the next thing you put in front of your audience and yeah over time hopefully the loyalty that's been built up means that people have confidence in you even if there's an episode that isn't quite for them but i do try and avoid that like it is one really good way to cannibalize your own audience very quickly is to just put out a bunch of shit episodes or a bunch of shit content um so yeah there's maybe one in 50 so like what's that two percent the two percent failure rate on bringing people on and the most annoying thing about it is not only obviously i've taken up the guests this time but like it's not my fault uh the worst thing about it is that i've taken up a slot recording with that person which means that i now need to record for the following week just so that i can keep on with the same publishing schedule and if i'm already behind or if i maybe got one booked in this week that's a five day week next week for me to record in order for me to just stay on track with how i need in the bank abby swan do you think they'll ever do any live events like james and diran etc uh yeah i'd love to seeing james smith who is a fitness pt guy from the uk for those of you who don't know and diran cartel who's like his other half um they both do live events around their books around their courses around just things they've been talking about and watching that live is powerful it's really cool uh so i would love to do that i don't know whether we're at the stage whether that's realistic um there's a few conversations being had behind the scenes about some cool shit that we might do over the next year to 18 months um and if i was to write a book then i would almost definitely try and do a live tour off the back of that just because it'd be awesome to speak about it in front of an audience and then get audience feedback um yeah it's it's fun i don't know i don't know that there's probably any bigger of a buzz than to talk about something you genuinely care about on stage in front of a group of people who all know you who all are built similar to each other who are familiar with your stuff uh like the way you must feel after you do that is is amazing next up jack dan keels do you consider jacking off to be a sport uh depends how frantically you do it like vigorous vigorous fapping would make for a high intensity workout but it's probably going to be pretty short um and also perhaps dangerous but do you consider jacking off to be a sport i wouldn't like to see the channel that tries to commercialize that you know if we get you know these dystopian futures 500 years in the future all the societies just descended into this limbic hijack gray hell um when jacking off becomes a sport i think we can just the simulation can just get turned off like that's that's the final horseman of the apocalypse when jacking off is a sport lj22 you mentioned before that it is difficult for content creators who are learning their craft and building a following to keep to a path signposted by the moral compass when there are so many incentives to plump for audience capture instead now that you've reached 250k which you feel has potentially been dialed down more the devil's devil on the shoulder that tells you to uh tells you that the data on a large group of people would allow you to grow the channel at a faster rate by giving them what they seem to respond to best or the angel on the shoulder that say to the larger audience now allows you to potentially play with a narrative that could challenge people to listen to views across the aisle e.g. david pacman or to a more rounded set of contributors e.g. patrick moore eisenstein richard betts ultimately do you feel more compelled to grow by giving people what they want or more freedom to challenge the audience you have built or neither or both uh this is a fucking sick question it's another one that's come from the locals as you can tell um fuck this is so good i would be i i don't think that audience capture right now is something that i need to be too worried about like i'm my integrity is sufficiently high at the moment this might change in future but i'm concerned about having interesting conversations with people i'm concerned about trying to have optimizing for impact next year you know really really trying to add to people's lives i'm making me listen to conversations that's awesome that being said bringing someone like david pacman that challenges views heavily for an audience that has become there's starting to expect a particular style of argumentation that requires a really the only people that are really really interested in that are super super academic or really really intellectually minded or people that go out of their way to find that sort of stuff and it's going to take time for me to gently introduce that sort of content it's like look the whole purpose of this episode you're about to listen to is to kind of make you feel uncomfortable or to challenge your current understandings and your current beliefs so i would really love it if i get to the stage where i understand exactly what works in terms of still continuing to grow the channel because you know we want to hit a lot more whilst also being able to bring on people to challenge um everyone's existing ideas um that's the more and more that i get feedback from the audience from you guys the more that you comment the well-meaning ones not the ones that are just like a an emoji of boobs like where you do the you do the two brackets and then you do the nipples with full stops capital y like the really good comments they help and the messages really help because they help to direct me toward what is what is working and what's not but i can't have conversations that don't land you need to have conversations that actually grow the channel or else what's the point if you just suck it whatever that's a quarter of a million that's the most you're ever gonna get that's that's not good enough for me i'm leaving too much on the table so i think over time the challenges of the creator change if you get bigger there is a combination of more responsibility but also more freedom to be able to speak to different people um i don't like the idea that there is i don't like someone thinking that there is any sort of limitation on who i kind of can't speak to but realistically there is going to be people out there you know charles maurice of this world who wrote the bell curve bringing him on comes with a whole load of baggage even if there's equal sides contesting whether or not that baggage is true i'm like okay right so i need to go and research whether or not this guy is as bad as people say he is and that's contested and then if i bring him on i have to have a conversation where do i bring up his old stuff that we're not sure if it's true or not sure if it's bad or not sure if it's good it's it's a difficult one and increasingly it's kind of becoming politicized even in the creative space we saw this with the decoding gurus thing right but yeah i think over the next year hopefully continue to do what we've done this year i think we've had a relatively well balanced conversation there's been people from the left and the right there's been people that have been pro and against i don't have to do that for everything i don't want to bring someone on that's pro one position and think right here we go here's a series of conversations about fucking abortion or whatever because i've decided to bring one person on because i thought they were interesting um but i also think that having that impulse just having that reminder it keeps me not necessarily it keeps me moving in the right direction rafford x as you get high visibility in cultural sphere what if any conscious choices slash perspectives are you applying to keep yourself grounded slash true to yourself i.e. meeting and interacting with john peterson timpool and other high profile celebs um this is a good question as well what am i doing to keep myself around intrusive well these people aren't just normal people that was the main thing that i realized when i met jordan we sat down for dinner for you know six hours and i'm two feet three feet away from him sat across the table and he's just a normal bloke he's just just a normal bloke that happens to be smart right and can communicate his ideas in a good way and um i got sorry right so i'll tell you this one of my friends interviewed a very well-known uh atheist of course in the past time ago no about two years ago and they were setting up in his house and the guy before they were going to start said i haven't eaten yet today would you mind if i just grab myself something so this guy goes into his fridge and pulls out mullet corner which is one of those yogurts where you have compote in one side you sort of snap it and pour it into the other and this guy has been top of my friend's list of interesting people to speak to like heroic academic titan person he's looking at him watching him he takes the lid off the top of the yogurt looks at it for a while and then licks it and at that moment my friend told me that all mystic spell that entire pervasive wonder the magic that had been around this person just went immediately like if you lick the lid of yogurt pot that's the most that's the most normal person thing that you can do and that's everyone so that's what i refer to as a yogurt lid moment which is when you see someone's someone that you really respect in mind realize that they're just a normal dude bro or do go like they're just a person right they need to wipe their ass and get up in the morning and they forget things and you know they're just normal people so it's not a it's not being as mad you know it's meeting the temples of the john peterson's of lex friedman um and give me six months and i might be so up my own ass that you can't even i can't even see you anymore i'm just living this life this unencumbered fucking a list of life but for now i i'm uh i'm just enjoying being like a normal guy who gets to meet these people who are also normal people right hokage huff uh if you could give one advice to your younger self what would it be um probably less afraid i think i was very conscious about very fearful about not being successful for a long time and that means that on route to achieving success it always felt bitter or not bitter it always felt tentative and fragile um and i'm gonna end up where i'm gonna end up right like the work that i put in is going to get me to the place it's going to get me to the fact that i'm i was fearful around not getting there didn't change anything other than make the experience of getting there more unenjoyable that's all that happened so yeah if i could give one piece of advice it would just be fearless right just things gonna happen allow them to come and go pym lejson uh can we get an idea of the plans you have with jordan uh next year can we get an idea of what the plans you have with jordan next year are about um no not yet i'll tell you i'll tell you in the new year i'm gonna we're hanging off on announcing until the new year but you will you will see it when we do it it's gonna be pretty cool it's gonna be very very cool birdie 152 does having slash growing audience does having a growing audience potential mate pool make it difficult to find a meaningful relationship um not really it's podcasting you know like i have a very meaningful relationship at the moment and podcasting doesn't influence that i'm not if you're logan paul right and you're constantly flying all over the world and in nightclubs in miami and your brother's knocking out tyron woodley and stuff that's a little bit different to being someone that researches the dopaminergic balance system to have a conversation with some researcher from sanford um i imagine that there must come a tipping point when your platform is so big that you kind of are your body of work like so think about whatever jordan peterson or a brett weinstein or whoever like a big big content creator they almost they almost don't become human anymore we almost look at these people as if they're not human we look at them as if they're just their work they're their body of work and you forget this is the thing about the previous question to do with what's it like meeting these people and how do you keep your feet on the ground that from the outside looking in these people are so much their bodies of work that they're barely even human anymore but i don't know when that i don't know when that point arrives when people no longer see you for just being a person i imagine it must come i don't know we'll find out we'll find out you will know because i'll start wearing a huge pimp fur coat cane top hat and you'll have to call me my lady uh mikajde dalton how do you decide i've been i'm sorry to everyone i've butchered every single fucking name today so apologies have simpler names have whatever it was harry has herpes and terry the terry the dominator whatever it was called how do you decide which speakers you'd like to feature on modern wisdom good question um with difficulty actually i am constantly looking at books that have been released always looking at other people's shows i have a little community with me and michaela and orbray and his team and a couple other people who kind of were able to share ideas in a way but it's not very easy um and if you have somebody that you think i should bring on just tweet it at me tweet it at me or send it to the contact form on the website because if you see someone that you think is an awesome podcast guest i'm why haven't i got them like if you listen to the show be a part of the show like you can say you can curate what it is that you listen to this is like a fucking choose your own adventure for netflix thing if you want something doing tell me if i can get the person on and if they're good i'll do it just make sure you link something they've already done and who they are and why you should get them on make the message short and just email it to chriswellx.com contact there's a form on there and just send it to me and if we can get them on we'll get them on as i just said above it's difficult because i need to do three a week that's a very very large amount of content the problem is i can't afford to really dilute down the quality because i'm competing every single podcast can get taken apart and this is the problem with decoding the gurus thing each podcast needs to stand on its own i don't get more leeway because i'm doing three a week and somebody else does one a month their quality can be put up against mine you can put those two episodes side by side and if mine doesn't match up with theirs then that's it you just look like less of a good podcaster so it's hard uh mostly and the ratio of ones who request come on there are quite a lot of requests um the ones i like the least are the ones that come in for i'm trying to be diplomatic here the ones i like the least are the ones that come in from agencies it's like podcastbookers.org and stuff and all that they do is they just have people that want to get booked on shows and just spam them around the list of podcasters that's kind of that's a bit shitty sometimes you find diamonds in the rough if you want to come on but the best ones are ones who other people that you respect other podcasters or well-meaning audience members send and like i can't remember who it was so it's happened at least at least four of the episodes from 2021 where someone tagging me on twitter and saying chris you really should get this person on i watch you know a little bit of a podcast that they've linked me with and then i reply to the tweet and say how do you feel about coming on name like my dms are open just let me know and it happens so if you want to do that you can all be everybody can be a researcher right everyone can be a researcher for modern wisdom just fucking make sure they're good what's your favorite britney spears song from jamin p what's your favorite britney spears song do you believe intelligent forms of life exist out in the universe i'm not sure if these two are linked what's your favorite britney spears song do you believe in intelligent forms of life um i don't have a favorite britney spears song sorry uh what happened to her oh she's in court isn't she she's in court trying to what she's trying to get her own next she could get the license to take herself to the toilet or something like her dad's her dad owns her entire life and she can't put parasitans on without his request first or something that's a weird one um do i believe in intelligent forms of life pass don't usually do this but pass i really really don't know um the odds seem so astronomical and yet selection bias the uh selection observer effect i think it's called where because we are the place that we've observed it we presume it has to be everywhere but we don't know how it could be one in a trillion trillion trillion trillion chance uh and we're one and we would be here if that's so we would be exactly here thinking well there's gonna be somewhere don't know man don't know you've started a business and are allowed five guests from the pod to work with from has bowls that is a sick question um george mack has to be in there i need i need that man on board john peterson i'm going to utilize his ridiculously huge reach on youtube channel and his massive email james smith he's going to be in there for comedic relief and because he understands how to make businesses who are the other two need uh anna lemke from stanford she can be the researcher to make sure that we're not frying our dopamine and she can keep us sweet uh and i was going to say sienna day but that's that seems like a that makes it a different sort of business um who else would i put in as the final one maybe maybe ben bergeron and ben can be coo and he could be like he could be the performance well actually he's gonna so george will make it george will make it happen i'll be there because for some reason i'm allowed to in as a part of this james smith understands the internet thing john peterson's got the platform i'm just gonna make sure we don't fry our dopamine ben bergeron he's team leader and he coordinates everyone to make sure that we're motivated yes 20100 um a schmidt have you hopes or plans to marry and raise a family chris i hope so you seem like a pretty decent human being who'd make a good husband and dad uh well looks gonna be accepted can't they because actually i just intend on i just want to have children so that i can use them as pinatas um yeah that's it gonna hit them with a big stick but no i'm looking forward to being a dad i can't wait to be a good husband and a good dad that will be it's weird i think about this more than i probably should do that it's going to be one of the most emotionally intense experiences that i ever go to and um i'm a pretty pretty emotional guy at times i feel things strongly in a nice way but having kids is something i don't know whether i'm prepared but then everyone thinks this everybody thinks that they're a pro that they're not ready to have kids and it happens and apparently everyone seems to be fine so uh what happens when you get so caught up in watching slash learning all this great stuff that it just becomes your newest form of procrastination all this new knowledge still very little action again an awesome insight that probably a lot of people struggle with so the issue you have is that you give yourself the feeling that you're making progress by learning things through a podcast by reading them or by doing whatever it's the simulacrum of making progress towards a meaningful long-term goal whilst not actually doing any of it and fuck if that's not you know the problem of the self-help world then i don't know what is to get around it you just need to lean into action as much as you can so you need to become an executor not a strategist right one of the stats is a strategy and strategist uh in the top 10 words used on all linkedin profiles and executor or execution aren't even in the top 100 why because it's significantly easy to strategize and to execute so first up don't beat yourself up about this this isn't just a byproduct of the self-help world this is a fundamental feature of being human right it is easier to theorize than it is to do the practical work so most people theorize most of the time one of the things i would do is restrict what you're focusing on so just look at one thing okay this month this week this year i'm going to focus on this particular thing is one thing so i want to really i really want to get in shape like that's my thing and then forget about the other stuff like you can enjoy learning about self-help as long as you continue to make progress towards the goal you've already identified so i think planning in advance and understanding what you're going to suck at um choosing okay if i want to get in good shape in the gym then maybe my work or my going to take a hit right maybe i'm going to struggle to go out as much and have as much fun because i'm going to be working on my fitness if that's the case cool that's the price you need to pay in order to do it but you need to remain focused on the thing what is the one thing that you want to do make a plan and then when something occurs later down the line like you realize oh shit i haven't seen my friends in a while or maybe work's dropping off it's okay this was this this is why you're here you made the plan for this to happen you said that you want to get in shape is that goal still true yes it is fine forget the fact that that's happening you can get back to doing that in future leaning into action and trying to find what is the next physical step that moves me toward my meaningful long-term goals that's the that's the superpower right the best productivity strategy of 2022 is to get really really clear about what you want and then ruthlessly call all of the other things that don't contribute to it and this thing that you really want can be to be an awesome father or to get into a relationship this isn't me advocating for ridiculous productivity at the expense of everything else i'm not saying that this has to be a commercial or self-growth paradigm right it can be you what do you want genuinely what is it that you want pick that thing and then get really really serious about doing that and ruthlessly call everything else you've already decided in advance what it is that you want get rid of the other stuff and just focus on that focus on action what is the next little thing i can move myself toward you listen to all these podcasts it sounds great pick the thing pick the thing in advance and just focus on that sa if you're transported back three years what areas would you focus on more and what less honestly i'm really happy with the development i've made over the last five years like that's one of the reasons why doing the show feels so good because i know i know how much headroom there was for me to grow above where i was like i was such i mean you know in five years i'm going to look back on me now and think what you're talking about you total pisshead but looking back i think i didn't know anything asked from albo and all of the steps i took i'm sure it could have been better organized right if ali abdala done it he'd have had a fucking notion spreadsheet tattooed on the inside of his arm it would have been so much slicker than i'd done it would have been procedural and overloaded with spaced repetition and shit if you said he'd done the same thing but i didn't right but it worked out okay and that's i think that's an to fly the flag for the people that are totally unorganized i think that's a much more realistic situation to be in but you're just going to you're going to have like a vague direction that you think you're supposed to go in and no real idea about how you're going to do it and then you just keep on trying things and find some strategies that work like have a good routine every single day read expose yourself to people that you really think are interesting and that bring value to you optimize for action etc etc and then you end up realizing okay i made some fucking progress this is pretty cool that it's gone pretty good it's gone pretty good uh sd are you growing a full salic because i think you should this is because uh i just wanted to post a photo that would get some comments on youtube so i just put a photo that i took last year and it was i realized this after i posted it as i was beginning to grow my moustache and the problem with tom tom sellick is my mom's only ever told me about one famous man that she fancies and it was tom sellick so i don't think i don't think that my inner awkward would allow me to grow facial hair that i know specifically that my mother's attracted to i don't think that that's an option isac or relina how do you keep pushing when your body says no good question i think the best mantra that i've got is this is why you're here so when you have some fatigue in you when you're struggling whether this be in a workout late at night when you're supposed to be doing work for your business or for school or college or uni or whatever it is that you're doing this is why you're here you go into the gym to struggle right you don't go into the gym to do the warm-up you go into the gym to do the hard things not the easy things so when think whenever it gets difficult that's a signal of growth right you're in the business you're running the business because you want it to be successful the way that you make your business successful is by doing the things that other companies are not doing that means that when it starts to get difficult that discomfort would be felt by competitive number one and two and three and four and five that's why you're here you're here to step through that degree of discomfort and you lean into it uh ben bergeron says that you lean into discomfort as if you invited it through the door right when it happens when you're in a workout your lungs start tearing and everything your vision starts blurring and starts going in just remind yourself okay good this is a sign that i'm doing the thing i'm supposed to be doing this is a signal that i'm moving in the right direction this is why you're here uh do you think phil lam do you think the person you are now would get on love island uh i don't know i feel like probably probably well they don't have people over 32 i don't think i'm 33 so um but i think probably more likely to get on than previously uh just because fuck like that was The difference that you get when you spend a little bit of time on camera is pretty profound.
How I would get on on the balance might be a little bit more difficult because I'm a lot less able to hold my tongue when people annoy me or when there's things to say and I would be much sooner to want to try and trigger stuff. But yeah, I don't know. Maybe. Maybe I would.
Deborah Marinelli. How do we manage the balance between self-love and get to the best version of what we could be? It feels like a contradiction, isn't it? Balancing self-love and I guess ambition or growth is a conversation that I've had so many times this year.
Benjamin Hardy's new book Gap in the Game is all about that. You should go and check that out. 260 pages. You need a feeling of insufficiency in order to motivate yourself to go and become a better version of yourself.
You can do that simply because you want to become better, simply because your time on this earth is limited and in that time you want to make the most of your minutes here and leave the world in a better place than you found it. That does not mean that you need to feel terrified and insignificant and broken and fragile and insufficient without making progress. If progress is not going to fill the hole that you feel inside of yourself, that hole can only be filled by you feeling like you are enough already. Will that kill a little bit of your drive?
I think it will. I think that some of the most ambitious, best progressing people on the planet, I think that they are on average less happy than most normal people to live a more miserable life simply because it provides you with more success. Because if the goal of reaching the success is that you'll finally be able to make yourself happy but en route to reaching the success you make yourself miserable, you've kind of short-cutted the entire situation. Why not just be happy?
Why not just give yourself the opportunity to feel like you're enough? And I understand that we're not totally rational creatures, right? And also we can't just go into our own code and reprogram it to be like, okay, you don't need to play Kicking up the Joneses now, you don't need to do the comparison game or you don't need to feel concerned that you haven't got the status or the wealth or the education or whatever it is and you can't. However, you can consciously design your life.
You can step into your own programming and shortcut it. And this is, if there was one core message that I think I've learned from Modern Wisdom over the last four years, it's been, you do not need to live your life by default. You can live it by design. And that's the goal.
You should be living your life by design, not by default. Your fucking factory setting programming defaults are horseshit. They are so bad. They do not serve you.
They do not make you happy. They do not make you fulfilled. You've imbibed what fucking culture and your parents and your older brother and the idiot people you went to school with. You've consumed and absorbed all of the stuff that they gave you.
And now most of the work that you need to do is deprogramming that and getting to a place of you. What is it that you want? And you can want to be a better person. You can want to be a better person whilst feeling enough at the moment.
And maybe you're not going to be quite as successful. Maybe the fear of insufficiency would propel you an extra 5% or 10% or maybe it's fucking 50%. But if your goal is to be happy and you think that becoming successful is going to contribute to your satisfaction and your happiness in life, you can just choose to be happy right now. And in that case, it doesn't matter what level of success you get to.
Find a thing that you love to do and you'll never work a day in your life. Find a life that you love to lead and you'll never need to feel insufficient. Big Red Baptista. Is it fair to say that you're being guided by the judgments and limitations put on you by others, decoding the gurus?
Do you think Joe Rogan gives a fuck he had molly new on? Very much doubt that. So, I don't think that I'm being guided by the judgments and limitations put on me by others. I don't think that judgment or limitation has caused me to act in a particular way.
But I do think that, oh, maybe you're right. Maybe to give you a due, maybe I am being guided by that. Do you think Joe Rogan gives a fuck he had molly new on? Well, he did go back and redo the Jack Dorsey episode and then had to bring Tim Poole on to do the episode with him.
So, I do think that he cares. I do think that Joe assesses his own performance in the same way that I do. But decoding the gurus episodes, the conversation I had with them was insightful because it was the first time that someone who is understanding in this space had said a bunch of things and part of them resonated as being true. Look, I needed to learn to be more skeptical around the guests I have on the show and I need to push back.
Cool, okay, that's a skill that I need to acquire. Rogan had a conversation with Jack Dorsey that went so badly that his audience tore him apart and then he brought him back on and didn't have faith that he was able to do what he needed to do himself so brought somebody else back on. So, I don't think that you can say that he doesn't give a fuck about the conversations that he's had or about the people that he's had on or else he wouldn't have reneged on he wouldn't have gone back and done it again. Also, a lot of people come into podcasting from another industry, right?
Rogan, comedian, commentator, presenter. However, I've come into this as a podcaster. Like, my first position in this industry is I'm podcaster first. Like, a crossfitter that hasn't come into it from weightlifting or athletics or track and field or something.
I come into it from crossfit. I come into it from the sport that I'm actually trying to do which means I'm going to make more failures and I'm going to have to learn out loud more as the show progresses because I didn't pick up that time when I was doing 1,000 gigs on the comedy circuit over the space of 10 years or something, right? Like, I didn't get that. The difference is that when you do 1,000 gigs on the comedy circuit like Rogan's probably done in order to build his skill set up which he can now deploy on his podcast he does that that wasn't immortalized on the internet for everybody to see and also you don't just you don't create an audience immediately like that.
You know, a quarter of a million people and like whatever it is 2 million, 3 million plays a month that we do all of those people get to critique my performance. I'm guided by trying to be the best person that I can be at having conversations and I will take the input and the suggestions from anybody that I think has something correct to say. I'm not blind to the fact that there is headroom for me to improve at doing this and if I really, really want to be good at this then why would I not take the suggestion of somebody a criticism that has value in it is a gift. Like, if it's true the criticism even if it's deployed in a nasty snide way and I brought that up with the guys and I was like, look the truth that you had was how would you say not ruined but it was tarnished by the snidey topspin that somebody put on it and whether or not you don't like the idea that a podcaster isn't whether or not you don't like the idea that a podcaster is taking on board the criticisms of others doesn't really matter to me.
I'm adamant that I'm a better podcaster because I do that because when somebody brings something up to me David Fuller from Rebel Wisdom he had some comments to say to me this year you know, fucking if Malice rang me and said, hey man, you know what it is here's something that I think and if I was like, oh fuck you know what it is that's really, really true here's a way that I reckon you could really up your game with the way that you begin or end or questions or comments or whatever, storytelling, anything I worked with the speech coach this year I worked with the diction coach for my TEDx talk and I decided to stick about and keep him on so I could work with him for the podcast I worked with the comedy coach this year and continue to work with him like, I'm being guided by the judgment and suggestions put onto me by others i.e. my coaches the fact that the guys from Detolding the Gurus or any other podcast David Fuller from Rebel Wisdom or anyone that wants to contribute the fact that they're not paid for me as a coach that just means I'm getting more profit out of it as far as I can see if all that I did was fold at the first sign of a little bit of criticism then yeah, I think that there would be a sign that your faith in your own performance isn't there but when someone's got something that I think is valid to say then sweet I'll take it on Karthik Chittara Hi Chris, can you can you Russell Brand on your channel? I can't Russell Brand on my channel because I don't think that I can grow the hair but I can try and get him on my channel and I'm speaking to John Peterson and Michaela at the moment to see if we can get something linked in maybe just connect with him for now I think there was another question about Russell Brand about something to do with oh it's down here you've got another question about Russell Brand coming can I Russell Brand? I will try and Russell Brand as best I can but I will also try and get one Jovan Bidenovic Max Verstappen or Lewis Hamilton I haven't seen it yet I haven't seen the final race so I'm going to hold off one thing that I did see that I thought was quite noble was Lewis was pretty gracious in defeat wished Max well said that he was sort of happy for this guy who had won in quite contentious situation in Formula 1 so I'm going to hold off Jovan but I will have a decision soon Pat Stedman's Polish Passport see these are the these are the sort of fucking names I'm here for Pat Stedman's Polish Passport that's the shit I'm here for please facilitate a discussion slash debate moderated by you between Rob Henderson and Rolo Tomasi about the mating market evil psych and what the stats mean Rolo thinks that Rob is generally on the money and knows the uncomfortable parts about what the data suggests but he plays it safe or PC when he's a guest on more tradcon channels like Jordan Peterson's Rolo's an interesting one man Rolo I don't know Rolo is my mind is still not made up around whether or not Rolo gets his direction and his insights which you know he's contributed to the meninism red pill space you know he pretty much created it there is a degree of kind of like nastiness to some of the things that he puts out that makes me wonder it makes me more concerned or more sceptical around whether or not the other ideas have whether they're free of bias right like there just seems to be and this happens this isn't just Rolo but it seems to be in a lot of the meninism slash red pill space that the guys they really take glee in shitting on women like they really fucking enjoy the fact that girls don't understand how hypergamy works or that girls are going to hit the wall at 30 or 35 or 40 and they're no longer going to be interested no guy's going to be interested in them like that that amount of glee to me that's the side of this evolutionary psychology discussion that I really really don't like I'm just not bothered about I'm not bothered about coming on and making girls feel like shit I'm more than happy to push uncomfortable truths all day long like harsh insights yeah all day because that is someone having to deal with reality coming and hitting them in the face but there's a limit to that there's a limit to how mean and nasty that can come across this is the problem you can have all the correct insights in the world but if you're a dick when you say it it's going to dampen the impact and why are you doing it like what is it you're getting out of that that being said Rob is a fucking awesome dude and he's a good mate of mine and Rollo is an important figure in this field I don't think that there would be I mean plays it safe for PC like Rob understands about the data but plays it safe like Rob's a social sciences researcher and a PhD candidate at Cambridge like who's to say that he doesn't actually just agree with the with not leaning into shitting on women like he doesn't not say things he says the things that are the truth but he doesn't lean into it in that red pilly way so I don't know man I had a lot of comments saying that I need to get Rollo on the show but I don't really know what I'm going to talk to him about I don't want to have a conversation that makes 50% of the audience feel like shit and that's not the type of evolutionary psychology that I'm into like if you look at fucking Jeffrey Miller right Jeffrey Miller is Jeffrey Miller's Rollo Tomasi with academic chops and he doesn't he doesn't lean into things in that same way I don't know we'll see we'll see what happens over the next year Sergeant Slimer if you hadn't had your epiphany in the Love Island Villa do you think you would have had it later in life or not at all yeah I think it was coming I think that there was a lot of I don't know just discordance in my life and I was thinking fuck like is this really the best I've got to offer the world like getting people drunk and then fucking going on reality TV in a small pair of swim shorts and that would have happened one way or another but the fact that it happened in a really condensed down version really really quickly was useful not many people go on reality TV to be like catapulted toward a life of integrity and virtue but I'll take it as a win Kyle Lalloc when will you and Malice travel abroad as soon as we're fucking allowed like that's been so frustrating two years we've been waiting to go away we spoke about this a ton while I was in Austin we will see right we'll see as soon as we can do it we want to go we spoke about the plans videographer's ready to go we just need to get the borders open Hale Wood why not pursue an agenda of not only focusing on individual improvement but also on structural functionalism a bit more like Russell Brand yeah okay so I avoid trying to make comments too much about what I think needs to be done by society at large structural functionalism because who the fuck am I to know I've only just about started to understand how I work and then maybe beginning to glimpse how other people work fucking multiply that by 65 million people that live in the UK or something I don't know Russell's stuff Russell's blown up this year especially obviously he's leaned into a lot of the COVID discussion and I'm looking forward to meeting him and having a conversation with him I feel like if you take the John Peterson approach of clean up your room and then the kitchen and then the other things in your house and then step out into the world fix you before you try and fix everyone else that to me feels like the best way to go along this journey by making myself and the people immediately that I can influence as good as we can be individually then moving that out to broader trends when I get older and when I've got more insight I just don't feel ready I don't feel like I know enough to be able to talk about I don't feel like I know enough to have most of the conversations that I have but to be able to try and claim structural changes of how I think things should be moved totally totally not there and honestly in situations like this more noise and less signal isn't what the world needs justified defiance how long do Twinkies last I mean if I find a 1000 year old Twinkie still in the wrapper is it safe to eat it I don't know let's google how long do Twinkies last according to Twinkie deconstructed the snack food only has a shelf life of 26 days any longer than that the sponge cake turns hard as a rock hard as a rock which seems pretty measly compared to the myth however it's considered quite good compared to the baked goods it's a myth it seems 24 days 25 days 26 days 26 days justified defiance that's how long what does your step-by-step morning routine look like at the moment this is from Danbell99 but there was tons of questions about this I'm going to release a morning routine course very soon and that will just take you through it it'll be probably three hours at most from start to finish it'll explain the principles of how to put together a good morning routine how you can stick to it all the contingency routines that you need and you'll end up making it as well you'll end up constructing your own one by the time you finish hopefully in less than three hours all in one go and that'll be ready as soon as I get my arse in here and you'll find out on that last one Johnny Jenin I'm 24 years old and feel lost in my current career where were you at 24 and what would you do 24 I was just out of uni so I just finished my master's in international marketing at 23 and I was running club nights I was working every Saturday all day setting up a club and then all night running the events and then during the week managing shit myself making sure that every single one this was like peak peak hardcore work me and Darren were just nailing it we didn't have any managers it was just me and him that was all we did like 120 130 all managed by us no people underneath us and it took a lot of time what would I do if I was 24 years old and feel lost in your career man not fear like you're going to be absolutely fine you're 24 you have an endless and this is such a this is like exactly the same shit that my mum would say to me but you have so much time to find out what it is that you want to do if you feel lost in your current career then leave leave go abroad for a chunk of time and work in a bar go do a season abroad somewhere and go work in a bar work as a pr for a club or work as a fucking assistant in a museum or whatever it is you want to do right you will find things that you gravitate toward more easily you do not need to focus if you're lost and you don't know what to do it sounds like you're struggling to find out even a direction out of the career that you don't like just do a bit of traveling spend some time with a pattern interrupt into your current routine new places new people new food new smells new experiences all that shit and you will not be able to hold on to your old mode of thinking there's going to be so much new stimuli coming in but all you can do is notice the things that arise that you find to be interesting and notice the things that arise you don't like over time those patterns will start to repeat and that is what life is life is you noticing patterns of things you like to do and don't like to do and leaning into the ones that you like you're split testing the experiences of your life and over time you get closer and closer and closer to the ones that you want to do and hopefully you find them you know there are an unlimited number of things that you can spend your time doing so sticking to something that you know that you feel lost in when you've got so much freedom and so much spare time you don't need to do it man you're good that's it that was a lot of questions dear lord and that was cut down as well that was cut down by about half so uh thank you to everyone who submitted a 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