42. "What are you looking for?"

Send us Fan MailOn this episode, we discuss why this seemingly innocent first-contact question can derail authentic connection before it even begins.We talk about the pressure to define your entire romantic future over coffee, why answering too specifically can attract chameleons instead of real compatibility, and how to stay grounded in your truth without oversharing.Plus, we share our own experiences about navigating this question and why a little mystery might be your best filter. If you’ve ever felt like someone became exactly who you said you were looking for—and then materialized as something else—you’re gonna want to tune in.Let’s talk dating with intention... and a touch of strategic vagueness.