426. Don't Open the Dating App Until You Hear This: Dating After Divorce with Erica McKay

If the thought of swiping again makes you want to throw your phone across the room, this conversation is for you.

In this episode of The Divorce Revolution Podcast, I'm joined by Erica McKay—modern-day matchmaker, relationship realist, and founder of Erica Suzanne Matchmaking—for an honest and surprisingly uplifting convo on what dating after divorce really looks like. We talk about how to date with more intention (and way less pressure), why it's essential to focus on how you want to feel in your next relationship, and the power of doing the inner work before you hand over your number.

Whether you're cautiously dipping a toe into dating apps or completely swearing them off, this episode will help you date slower, date smarter, and maybe even feel excited about love again.

Resources Mentioned:

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What We Discuss:

• 05:00 Mistakes to avoid when rejoining dating apps
• 08:08 Erica's story: From divorce to finding real love again
• 11:22 Building a coaching business as a divorced mom
• 12:45 Why you should visualize how you want to feel, not just what you want
• 19:12 Why inner work is essential before reentering the dating pool
• 22:04 The power of saying "yes" to new experiences
• 24:52 Navigating new relationships post-divorce
• 28:12 Dating questions to ask early—and which ones to avoid
• 35:54 How to date slower and deeper
• 40:42 Alcohol on first dates: yay or nay?
• 42:34 How matchmaking works (and when to consider it)
• 46:11 Introducing Young Lux for 22–38 year-olds

Find more from Erica McKay:

Website: https://www.ericasuzanne.com/

Find more from Amber Shaw:

Instagram: @msambershaw

Website: ambershaw.com