(#43) The High Cost of Seeking Validation & How to Reclaim Your Power

Summary:Why do we chase external validation? How does it erode confidence and keep us stuck? In this episode, Rita breaks down the hidden cost of seeking approval and explains how to shift into self-ownership. She shares personal experiences, asks powerful reflection questions, and provides practical tools to stop chasing and start embodying your worth.Reflection Questions:Where in your life are you chasing validation?What would change if you gave yourself the approval you’re seeking?How would you walk into a room if you already felt valid?Timestamps: 04:15 – How the “high need to be seen as” keeps you trapped 07:40 – Rita’s personal experience: The pressure to appear like she had it all together 10:10 – The question that changes everything: What if you already felt valid? 13:35 – Chasing vs. standing in confidence: The energy shift that changes everything 14:57 – Childhood programming & the drive for approval 18:16 – Why external approval is fleeting and impossible to control 22:49 – The real impact of over-giving & over-performing 27:39 – How to know when you're seeking validation (& what to do instead) 32:25 – Audit your motives: Are you doing this for you or for approval? 37:14 – The moment you stop chasing approval, you reclaim your power 39:30 – Reflection questions & final takeawaysResources & Next Steps:Click Here: Wealth & Wisdom Group – Starting March 26, 2025!DM Rita on Instagram (@RitaMarieMendez) with a topic you'd love to hear her coach on.Private Facebook Group:Live trainings, challenges, and real-time coaching![Link to join]✨ If you loved this episode, share your biggest takeaway on social media, tag @RitaMarieMendez, and leave a review!Please be sure to tag me @RitaMarieMendez on Instagram and share this episode with your community to spread the word if you or someone you know has benefited from this episode! I'd love to hear about your experience!If you love the podcast please click below to rate, review and follow - thank you!Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple PodcastsLinks/Resources:Rita's Website: Go to the WebsiteContact us here: [email protected]