43: When Something No Longer Fits

What happens when something that once belonged in our life no longer fits who we are now? In this episode, Alyson examines the quiet and sometimes sudden ways we outgrow identities, beliefs, habits, relationships, definitions of success, and former versions of ourselves. This isn't a story about rejecting the past. It's about recognizing when something has completed its role, allowing ourselves to grieve what mattered, and learning how to remain in the empty space before we know what comes next. The discomfort isn't only in letting go. It's in knowing something no longer resonates while still feeling attached to what it once gave us: safety, identity, belonging, fun, certainty, accomplishment, connection, or familiarity. That gap is The Space Between in its clearest form. We can't fully return to what was, but the new thing hasn't yet arrived. In This Episode Why growth creates moments when something can feel deeply woven into our identity while no longer feeling true Control as an illusion of safety, and what it means to finally trust herself to handle what comes Busyness and productivity as a measure of worth, and why exhaustion isn't proof of value The club kid she used to be, and why that version of fun no longer fits who she is today The cost of needing to be right, and what opened up when she chose curiosity instead How spiritual, religious, cultural, and political identities can stop aligning with who we've become Grieving things that aren't people: former selves, relationships, memories, and entire chapters of life The empty space that comes after letting go, before anything new has arrived Choosing what fits now instead of rushing to fill the gap Why self-trust, not certainty, is what carries us through transformation "Some things that no longer fit I actually miss." "That way of life doesn't fit the woman that I am today. It's still part of who I am, but it no longer resonates the way that it did." "Just because it's not a person doesn't mean that you can't grieve." "I keep becoming the woman that I came here to be, the person that I came here to be, the soul that I came here to be." "What feels like me now?" Connect with The Space Between Website https://spacebetweenpod.com Show Instagram https://www.instagram.com/tsb_alysonrixner/ Alyson's Instagram https://www.instagram.com/alysonrixner/ Substack https://substack.com/@alysonrixner