437 Step 5 with Sonia Khalon: Resentment, Boundaries, and the Fear of Asking for What You Need

My name is Arlina, I'm a best-selling author of the 12 step guide for skeptics, I've been sober for 32 years myself, and I'll be your host. Before we jump in, I just want to share that I have a few coaching spots opening up. There seems to be a lot of people who are sober and building businesses, which in this economy, is really smart! The biggest challenge I see is people who are under earning Due to subconscious fears. I use hypnosis and internal family systems as part of the process of eliminating limiting beliefs and creating a new identity that supports your goals. So if you're sober and you're building a business, but you keep self-sabotaging or staying stuck, I work with people exactly like you. Book a free discovery call at soberlifeschool.com. Today I sit down with Sonia Kahlon, co-founder of Sisters in Sobriety to tackle Step 5. Sonia has been moving through the steps with remarkable consistency, and this conversation gets real about resentments, boundaries, fear of asking for what we need, and the surprising ways sobriety makes us more sensitive, not less. This episode is packed with practical wisdom, including: • Why resentment is called the #1 cause of relapse - and what to do about it • How to set a boundary without going from doormat to dictator • The difference between your thoughts and your actions (and why it matters for Step 6) • How sobriety can actually make you slower to react - and why that's okay • What the Karpman Drama Triangle is and how it shows up in your relationships • Why if you spot it you got it is a tool for compassion, not self-punishment • How to use canned responses to navigate emotionally charged conversations So without further delay, please enjoy this episode with Sonia!   SHOW NOTES:   Guest Website: https://sistersinsobriety.substack.com/ 👊🏼Need help applying this information to your own life? Here are 3 ways to get started: 🎁Free Guide: 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days - With a printable PDF checklist Grab your copy here: https://www.soberlifeschool.com ☎️Private Coaching: Make Sobriety Stick https://www.makesobrietystick.com Subscribe So You Don't Miss New Episodes!   Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Amazon Music, or you can stream it from my website HERE.  You can also watch the interview on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@theonedayatatimepodcast?sub_confirmation=1     Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast/id1212504521 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4I23r7DBTpT8XwUUwHRNpB Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/a8eb438c-5af1-493b-99c1-f218e5553aff/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast