449. Coaching Hotline: Obsessing Over Sexual & Romantic Rejections

When you’re replaying a breakup, imagining a different version of yourself your partner might have loved more, or worrying that someone is “settling,” the problem isn’t the relationship, it’s the way your brain is using other people’s opinions to try to regulate your self-worth. In this Coaching Hotline episode, I answer two listener questions about rejection and attraction that illustrate how quickly your mind will outsource your value to someone else’s thoughts. I break down why your brain becomes so invested in mental rehearsals, fantasies, and what-ifs, and how those patterns keep you from seeing your actual emotional life clearly. Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotline Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/449Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/Mentioned in this episode:Enroll now in Coach-Curious Prep School In this five-day incubator, you’ll learn whether coaching is the right career for you, what you need to do to prepare for a successful coaching career, and the next steps to take to begin – or expand – your life as a coach. It's happening on JUNE 22-26, 2026. Click here to register: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/curiousEnroll now in Coach-Curious Prep School