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EPISODE · Jan 8, 2026 · 23 MIN

456. Better Boundaries & Instant Obligation Syndrome

from UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone

Ever notice how when someone asks you for something, you immediately feel like you should say yes? Whether it's a colleague wanting to pick your brain over coffee or your kid's school asking you to bake for the school fundraiser, there's this instant weight that settles on your shoulders. In this episode, I'm naming something that hasn't been talked about before but affects almost everyone socialized as a woman: Instant Obligation Syndrome. I'll explain why this happens, how it's rooted in the socialization that teaches women their purpose is to serve others, and why you feel like you need a "good reason" to say no. Most importantly, I'll show you why this pattern is costing you far more than you realize. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/456Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/Mentioned in this episode:How to Ask for What You WantOver five days, you’ll find out what’s keeping you from asking for what you want – and how to actually do it, even when your brain tries to stop you. Live Challenge: September 21-25, 2026 · 12 p.m. ETSign up for the Ask For What You Want Challenge here

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