461: Relationship mistakes, conversation starters & the science of make-up sex | John Gottman, Ph.D. & Julie Gottman, Ph.D.

Julie Gottman, Ph.D. & John Gottman, Ph.D.: “Touch is as essential to our well-being as food, water, and exercise.”  The Gottmans, renowned psychologists, co-founders of the Gottman Institute, and the world’s leading experts in the study of relationships, join mbg co-CEO, Jason Wachob, to discuss little things you can do to secure a long-term relationship, plus: - New challenges many couples face (~01:08) - The power of touch for overall well-being (~03:18) - Little things to do on a daily basis to connect with your partner (~06:38) - Why compliments are crucial for successful relationships (~12:09) - How family trauma impacts your ability to find love (~18:58) - The most common mistakes people make in relationships (~24:11) - Essential ingredients for long-lasting relationships (~27:22) - The importance of weekly date nights (~29:22) - How to have meaningful conversations with your partner (~31:17) - How to have a discussion about your sex life (~35:28) - What role sex actually plays in a relationship (~38:09) - Why some people have affairs (~43:41) - What you can do today to ensure everlasting love (~46:34) Referenced in the episode: - The Gottmans' book, The Love Prescription. - Check out the Gottman Institute. - mbg Podcast episode #320, with the Gottmans. - Harry Harlow monkey study. - The Gottmans' study on newlyweds and bids for connection. - Check out Robert Levinson's research. - A study showing couples underestimate positive experiences 50% of the time. - Check out the Gottmans' Open-Ended Card Decks. - The Normal Bar. - Not "Just Friends". - Sign up for The Long Game.  Take 20% off our holiday collection with code HOLIDAY20. Cannot combine with gift cards or other discount codes. Apply code at checkout. We hope you enjoy this episode, and feel free to watch the full video on YouTube! Whether it's an article or podcast, we want to know what we can do to help here at mindbodygreen. Let us know at: [email protected]. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices