#47: Seven years in the sex club lifestyle: friends, phases and letting go

I reflect on my seven-year journey as a sex club goer in Toronto, starting in April 2019 when I was shy, naive, living alone, coming out of a tough period, and reconnecting with my body after 10 years without sex. Over time I blossomed, learned I’m demisexual, and had formative experiences with men, couples, and friends, while tracking my sex life in an Excel spreadsheet. I describe how key friendships entered my life, especially my bestie in 2021, later other women, and DTF Tanya-alongside meeting my current partner. Now, on May 1, 2026,I notice many familiar faces have rotated out, sometimes due to life, shifting phases, or a falling out, and I’ve learned to cherish people in the moment, accept ebb and flow, and make new friends who are excited to be there. 00:00 First Sex Club Night 01:29 Finding My Sexuality 02:34 Mike and Early Adventures 04:33 Friends and Club Crew 08:45 Where Did Everyone Go 09:54 Friendship Fallout Lessons 12:14 Ebb and Flow Lifestyle 14:00 Cherish Friends Now 17:37 Desensitized and New Fantasies 19:49 Make New Friends 21:29 Gratitude and Goodbye *description written with the help of AI* ***** ALL social media links (YouTube, podcasts, fan page, etc): ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://linktr.ee/TorontoUnicorn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ***** Sign up for my email newsletters to stay up-to-date on TorontoUnicorn news, events and swinger lifestyle resources: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://torontounicorn.kit.com/torontounicornemails⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ***** Get your free Swinger Lifestyle Starter Kit - learn what to expect, common mistakes to avoid, and how to walk into a sex-positive space without feeling out of place: 👉⁠⁠⁠https://torontounicorn.kit.com/dpodcast⁠⁠⁠ Ready to go deeper? Check out my full courses at ⁠⁠⁠⁠LevelUpWithTorontoUnicorn.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ ***** DIRECT link to my explicit TorontoUnicorn fan page: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://OnlyFans.com/TorontoUnicorn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ BONUS content (behind the scenes, non-explicit) available now on my TorontoUnicorn Patreon page! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/c/TorontoUnicorn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ My personal website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TorontoUnicorn.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ --- Want to own something I wear, use, recommend? Or just see what hilarious and unique products I found worthy of sharing? 🤣 Check out my Amazon storefront! *affiliate links provide me with a small commission* 🇺🇸 Amazon storefront: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.amazon.com/shop/torontounicorn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 🇨🇦 Amazon storefront: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.amazon.ca/shop/torontounicorn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ --- Please rate this podcast 5 stars and leave a comment Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices