48: ✨ 10 Things I Wish I KNEW in My 20s about relationships, love, mindset, anxiety, dating (BEFORE healing my Anxious attachment) episode artwork

EPISODE · May 20, 2025 · 21 MIN

48: ✨ 10 Things I Wish I KNEW in My 20s about relationships, love, mindset, anxiety, dating (BEFORE healing my Anxious attachment)

from The Anxious To Secure PODCAST · host Jula - The Anxious To Secure Coach

🖤 Attachment Style QUIZ  https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz 🎧 Listen now BEFORE you turn 30:   (Or honestly… even if you’re already past it ✨ this still hits.) If you're in your 20s, anxiously attached, and OVER second-guessing yourself in relationships, friendships, or your life path ...this episode is a wake-up call 📱🖤   I’m breaking down 10 brutally honest lessons I wish someone had told me before I kept chasing people who didn’t see me… abandoning my needs to feel liked… and confusing chemistry with connection 💭💔 (While I have no regrets, because all of these taught me SO much and made me who I am... I  still do SECRETLY wish I could turn back the clock for some...)   This episode isn’t relationship or mindset advice ... it’s more me being vulnerable. So if you want to build real confidence, stop self-abandoning, and being kind to yourself...this might be your episode.   🎧 Listen to this if you: ★ Keep choosing partners who feel hot and cold ★ Want to stop overthinking relationships + reading into everything and have negative self talk ★Are tired of abandoning your needs to “keep the peace” ★Want to FEEL secure without needing constant reassurance   OFFERS:  🖤📱 ON SALE: "Stop Obsessing Over Texts in 21 Days or Less" — https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety (It's packed with tools to calm your anxious brain & Finally stop spiralling after every “seen” or emoji reply)   🖤 How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship in 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner) https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse   FREE: 🖤 FREE Attachment LIBRARY: https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach   ♥️ YOUTUBE: How to use CHATGPT as THERAPIST for healing your ANXIOUS attachment https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-g4bJH_Kb1g&t=3273s&list=PLkaamihHgLaFKGx4eLHBUzKube_Xd7So2&index=2&t=47s   CHAPTERS: 00:00 Lessons from My 20s: A Journey of Self-Discovery 02:25 10 things I WISH I’d known in my 20s 02:48 #01 The energy I wasted not speaking up for myself 04:05 #02 Fitting in isn’t the same as belonging 05:29 #03. If I had learned social skills earlier, I could’ve avoided years of social anxiety 06:50 #04 Alcohol is NOT a shortcut to confidence 08:26 #05. Hanging out with the wrong people just to be liked is self-abandonment 09:36 #06. Letting parents' opinions dictate my decisions stole my power 11:25 #07. Over-giving in my first relationship destroyed my self-worth 12:31 #08. There’s a difference between unavailability and avoidant attachment 13:51 #09. Attaching too fast makes fantasy feel like fate 15:36 #10. Your thoughts are not facts 16:28 Bonus Lessons...I WOULD tattoo on my soul 16:38 ➤ BONUS 01 18:49 ➤ BONUS 2 20:00 ➤ BONUS 03   DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.   Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.  

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