48 - The Real Meaning of Resolution

Click here to read the episode highlights.    The "Living with Heart" Podcast is brought to you by Chip Dodd Resources (www.chipdodd.com) and The Voice of the Heart Center (vothcenter.com). Contact Bryan Barley for coaching at [email protected].    Welcome back and Happy New Year’s Eve!   We are talking about the real meaning of resolution, what many us set our minds to focus on in the first of every year. We often fail not too long after we commit ourselves to some New Year’s resolution. There is a reason we often give up on our promises and commitments to ourselves.    We deal with that today: What sets us up to fail, and how do we actually succeed.   New Year’s Day is often a marker day, one in which we look towards the future and ask significant questions: What do I want to happen? What do I want to achieve? What do I imagine? What do I desire?   Out of the answers to the questions, we set up markers and set our sights on getting to the goal lines of our hopes and dreams.    We often fail, not because we lack desire or good intentions. We fail because we attempt to achieve certain things with tools that do not work, starting with a mistaken understanding of what a resolution is.   We have been trained to think that a resolution means that I need to become hyper-focused, and that I need to become bound and determined through will power to achieve the goal. The mistaken teaching actually sets us up to fail.    Failure occurs in the following way: The phrase “bound and determined” literally means to be “tied up” or “bound,” by being constricted, or not free.  I actually become deterred (discouraged) by the very determination I think will bring success.  Being bound means to be tied up, and determined becomes deterred, or stalled, from the very success I have resolved to achieve.  Being tied and deterred is not the way to success.   By going back to the word resolution and grasping its real meaning, we can start down a path of accomplishing what we seek.   Resolution actually means: To re-solve, literally to untie what has become a knot.  Resolve means to re-decide, to untie myself from something that binds me or stops me from having the life I seek.   Click here to continue reading the episode highlights.