482 Confessions of an Upset Mama! Why won't my child talk to me?

Why won't my child talk to me? Communication is an essential tool to building strong relationships. How do you speak to your child?   Are you a momma who slams the door in their face? Only wanting to talk when it's convenient for you.  Yes! This is what a lot of us do, even in our marriages. War of words. You want to carry on the longer conversation after your husband has worked a long 10-12 hour day; a he would rather not. And then you get upset.  A conversation involves more than one person. You talking to yourself is an internal dialogue. If you want to build up your communication with your child, you must be willing to learn how to. Desire to be supported and encourage by other like-minded women? Join us at Women ofIMPACT. http://bit.ly/WomenofIMPACT   As much as we think we know how to converse, we rarely put any energy or concentrated effort into learning the skills needed to grow. "We don't converse with our children (our spouses); we attack, we demand. We expect a certain response from them based on what we say. But what we get is a closed door and no ears to hear." ~ Kristianne Wargo You want to be heard, but not willing to listen when needed. So how can you get your child (or spouse) to talk to you? The K.I.S.S. ~ Communicate when they reach out - C.H.A.T.! C = CONNECT. Be available when they want to talk even if it's at midnight. H = HEAR. Hear their side of the story even if you don't agree. This is your chance to hear their heart. Hear INTENTLY! On purpose. Watch their mannerisms, how they use their words. A = ACCEPT. Understand. No judgement. We have a tendency to put down. Accept their position. That doesn't mean you agree. But it's giving them RESPECT. You can't attack and cut them off. T = TEXT. How are they speaking to you? Learn their language. Facebook. Text. Instagram. Snap Chat. Twitter. "Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply." ~ Stephen R. Covey   Would love to hear what you are working on. Send your challenges and celebrations to [email protected]   The Create Your Now Archive isLIVE!! You can subscribe and listen to all the previousepisodes here.  http://bit.ly/CYNarchive1   PERISCOPE USERS!!! Click here for ANDROID Users / GOOGLE  https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=tv.periscope.android Click here for APPLEUsers  https://itunes.apple.com/app/id972909677   THE NO FUSS MEAL PLAN Twitter@KristianneWargo@CreateYourNow Facebookwww.facebook.com/TheKISSCoach www.facebook.com/CreateYourNow Contact me at [email protected] Read more from Kristianne, acontributor of The Huffington Post http://www.huffingtonpost.com/kristianne-wargo/   DOMESTICBEAUTIES (Announcements) 1. Come and let's connect on Facebook - Women OfIMPACT  http://bit.ly/WomenofIMPACT 2. Create Your Now Archive 1 is LIVE! You can subscribe andlisten to all the previous episodes here. http://bit.ly/CYNarchive1 3. NEW Website! Go check it out and tell me what you think.http://www.createyournow.com 4. Sign Up for The A.I.M. Academy! You will be the first tolearn all about it. http://createyournow.com/m-academy-2 5. Newsletter and Library: If you desire to get weekly emails,be sure to sign up here so you can stay connected. http://createyournow.com/library   Music by Mandisa - Overcomer http://www.mandisaofficial.com   Cover Art by Jenny Hamson