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EPISODE · Feb 20, 2026 · 22 MIN

486 SelfWork: The Paralyzing Consequences of Self-Blame

from The SelfWork Podcast · host Margaret Robinson Rutherford PhD

Self-blame - when it happens way too much - can be paralyzing.Five paralyzing consequences of self-blame... You were blamed as a child so it's become part of your own punishing self-critic which can lead to self-sabotage.You were manipulated or are being abused and you take the blame to "keep the peace" and become submissive.You take the blame for something that's happened to you in order to irrationally regain some sense of control.You're perfectionistic and are constantly looking for even the smallest of mistakes that your inner critic pounces on to shame and blame you.You need affirmation so you take blame that doesn't belong to you as a way of getting that kind of attention.Advertisers Links: Click HERE for the NEXT GEN offer from AG1 – with bonus product with your new subscriptionPre-order The Perfectly Hidden Depression Workbook - A stand-alone workbook exploring the ten traits of Perfectly Hidden Depression, with guided exercises to help you decide what to keep from your drive and perfectionism, and what to let go.Publishes April 1st!  Pre-orders matter! Be a part of the conversation and join Dr. Margaret’s newsletter for one weekly email featuring the latest blog post and podcast episode. Have a question or comment? Send a voice message for possible use on the podcast. By recording, you give permission for your voice to be used on SelfWork! Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

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Five paralyzing consequences of self-blame... You were blamed as a child so it's become part of your own punishing self-critic which can lead to self-sabotage. You were manipulated or are being abused and you take the blame to "keep the peace" and become submissive. You take the blame for something that's happened to you in order to irrationally regain some sense of control. You're perfectionistic and are constantly looking for even the smallest of mistakes that your inner critic pounces on to shame and blame you. You need affirmation so you take blame that doesn't belong to you as a way of getting that kind of attention. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

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