#49: Your Questions: Marriage, Sex, and Not Being on the Same Page with Your Spouse

Welcome to our second Q & A episode! Thank you for submitting your questions.In this episode, we address questions specifically related to marriage, sex, and what to do when you and your spouse are not on the same page.Here’s a review of the questions we discuss in this episode: * How can I stop from feeling wrong and dirty about sex with my spouse? * What do I do when my spouse isn't "on the same page." * How can I encourage godliness in my son when his dad isn't actively growing in his faith? * What is the best way to help our kids heal after years of marital turmoil we are now trying to fix?The questions:From Amanda: My husband and I have been married for about 4 1/2 years and have had sex about 4 times. Every time I begin to feel good I also feel incredibly wrong and dirty. I believe this may stem from my abstinence, true love waits upbringing, but in marriage it's now time to stop waiting. Mentally, I can grasp this concept but I'm having a hard time letting my body catch up. Are there any resources you can recommend to get past this mental block?From Amanda: How do I implement the great advice and tools you offer if my spouse is "not on the same page"?From Natalie: One of the best gifts that we can give our children is a strong spiritual marriage with our Lord Jesus Christ and our spouse. How do you recommend doing that when your spouse isn’t a strong believer and isn’t actively growing their faith but rather seems to be slipping down the trap doors Satan has planted. What are ways as a wife/mom to encourage godliness in our son when he isn’t seeing that in his earthly father and to encourage repentance in our husbands?From Tara: A question about family healing after turmoil. When a marriage has been through major turmoil or brokenness with many things said and did through anger, hurt, and regret, how do you heal the kids and the family unit once the marriage is piecing back together and healing. How do marital struggles affect the children? How can you help them heal when mom and dad feel they have caused damage with their own struggles in the marriage?Show Notes: For information related to sexual wholeness in marriage, you can visit our trusted friend and colleague's website, Dr. Doug Rosenau at www.sexualwholeness.com.A Celebration of Sex: A Guide to Enjoying God's Gift of Married Sexual Pleasure by Dr. Doug RoseneauIntended for Pleasure: Sex Technique and Sexual Fulfillment in Christian Marriage by Ed and Gaye WheatEnjoy: The Gift of Sexual Pleasure for Women by Joyce PennerMoving Mountains by John Eldredge