#499 Dr. Sean Pastuch - Live More, Hurt Less

Dr. Sean Pastuch returns to share lessons from his career and his new book, Live More, Hurt Less.Sean joins me to discuss:• How he defines “Live More, Hurt Less”• What that philosophy looks like in real life• Why helping people feel heard can be such an important part of navigating pain and movement limitations• The three identities Sean believes are relevant to meaningful change• The “Be, Do, Have” framework• The difference between confidence and self-esteem• Why identity work does not need to become vague or “woo”• What Sean means when he says, “Discipline is not the cause; it’s the effect”• Why pain itself is not always the biggest problem• What Sean means by, “Pain is not the problem. The problem is the compromises pain forces you to make”• The difference between sacrifice and compromise• Why accepting a smaller life can become normalized• What Sean means by, “Compromise is the acceptance that living less is reasonable”• How social permission can make quitting feel acceptable• Sean’s own turning point with neck pain• The role of anchors and action in changing behaviour• How conflicting identities can interfere with progress• Why analytical people can sometimes think their way into inaction• Reconciling “It’s never about you and it’s always your responsibility”• Why commitment can matter more than endlessly trying• Why meaningful change is supposed to be difficult• Coaching people who actually fit your philosophy and process• Sean’s thoughts on influencers, virtue signalling, and online behaviour• Lessons from marriage, relationships, and communication• And much moreFollow Sean on Instagram:@drseanpastuchCHAPTERS00:51 Why Sean Wrote Live More, Hurt Less02:27 The Identity Model for Change03:36 The Be, Do, Have Framework06:11 Confidence Versus Self-Esteem10:11 Why Identity Work Isn’t “Woo”13:12 Discipline Is the Result16:43 Pain, Restriction, and Compromise21:18 Sacrifice Versus Compromise24:46 When Society Gives You Permission to Quit29:04 Sean’s Neck Pain Turning Point31:34 Anchors, Identity, and Taking Action36:03 Identity Conflict and Behaviour Change38:18 The Analytical Mindset Trap40:28 “It’s Not About You” and Personal Responsibility44:57 Love Languages, Marriage, and Communication49:53 Stop Trying and Start Committing56:40 Coaching the Right Clients58:51 Influencers and Virtue Signalling01:03:14 Final Thoughts, Resources, and GratitudeSUPPORT THE SHOWIf this episode helped you think differently about pain, identity, discipline, or personal responsibility:• Subscribe and check out more episodes• Share the episode on social media and tag @andrewcoatesfitness• Send it to someone who has slowly started giving up parts of their life because of painFOLLOW ANDREW COATESInstagram: @andrewcoatesfitnesshttps://www.andrewcoatesfitness.comPARTNERS AND RESOURCESRP STRENGTH APPUse code COATESRP:https://www.rpstrength.com/coatesJUST BITE ME MEALSUse code ANDREWCOATESFITNESS for 10% off:https://justbitememeals.comMACROSFIRST — FREE PREMIUM TRIAL• Download MacrosFirst• Begin setting up your account• When asked, “How did you hear about us?” enter: ANDREWKNKG BAGS — 15% OFFhttps://www.knkg.com/Andrew59676VERSA GRIPPShttps://www.versagripps.com/andrewcoatesTRAINHEROIC — FREE 90-DAY TRIAL• Visit: https://www.trainheroic.com/liftfree• Reply to the email you receive or email [email protected]• Let them know Andrew sent youL1 BIOMECHANICS AND ASSESSMENT COURSEUse code COATES:https://pro.activelifeprofessional.com/assessmentworkshopevents