#5 - Fear of Abandonment & Being Replaced in A Polyamorous Throuple Relationship

As an established polyamorous throuple, we know that in the early stages of starting a throuple, it is natural to fear that you may be replaced and to feel insecure about the depth of connection your partner is experiencing with another person. If you are experiencing these things, this episode is for you! In this episode, we offer our personal stories, practical tips, and insights on overcoming the fear of loss as we delve into societal conditioning, personal insecurities, and the challenges of balancing multiple partners' needs and desires. Join our Throuple Community, Throuple Talk’s Connection Hub: https://www.facebook.com/groups/367901899061611 If you'd like to send us a 📞 voice message, click here: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/throupletalk/message 👀 Watch or 🎧 listen on YouTube, Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Amazon Music, and Audible: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/throupletalk . References: Polysecure by Jessica Fern https://amzn.to/3QHPI71 (*Amazon Affiliate Link) 00:00 - Intro 00:26 - It's not strictly related to romantic relationships 02:23 - Relationship changes when you become a parent 04:50 - Polyamory and loss of original relationship 06:15 - Entering a triad as the additional partner to a preexisting couple 08:00 - How do you find happiness when you have to deal with change 11:43 - How to deal with feeling excluded and dealing with comparisons and keeping score 15:00 - Accept that monogamous structures don’t apply to polyamory 19:00 - Focusing on what you gain versus what you are missing 23:00 - Security within polyamory is a personal responsibility 24:48 - Facing the fear of coming out as polyamorous within a monogamous relationship 31:00 - Missing that poly something within monogamy and dealing with it 32:35 - In polyamory you’re not supposed to be everything for your partners 34:35 - Understanding what we can provide to a partner and what it not within our wheelhouse 36:00 - We’re trying to be everything for a partner because societal expectations and we fail 38:00 - We’re missing on the relational support within a tribe and community 39:24 - Wrapping up and next episode Unwiring Hardwired Monogamy #Podcast #throuple #polyamory #coupletothrouple #egalitarianpluralrelationship *We are a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising program designed to provide a means for us to earn fees by linking to Amazon.com and affiliated sites.