5 Lessons on Dysfunctional Environment for Children

When we grow up in chaotic or even dysfunctional families, we learn unspoken rules and messages. While necessary to the survival of a child within that family community, outside of that environment, these messages do not make sense and can even be harmful as they continue to revictimize trauma survivors. 5 of the most common unspoken messages that childhood trauma survivors carry into adulthood are: 1. You must forgive or even ignore bad behavior. 2. Relationships will be painful. 3. Trust is not guaranteed in relationships. 4. It’s your fault. Whatever it is. 5. It's not safe to turn to families for support. It is important to remember that these messages were formed due to years of dysfunction, abuse, or mistreatment, and that they are not true. Doing the work to unlearn these harmful messages can be done through educating oneself to heal the hurt and trauma from years of lies and replace them with the truth. Subscribe and share. Anxiety can trigger depression and other behavioral, physical, and mental health issues. It is especially hard if you are dealing with other personal, work, relationship, or family-related issues. Please be aware that it is okay to ask for help.