5: Sexual Pursuers & Responders

Send us Fan MailIn this week's episode, Matt and Jenn explain the sexual pursuer/responder dynamic that occurs in every marriage. Understanding your role in this dynamic provides a framework to better discuss and resolve sexual conflicts in your marriage.Identify your role in the Pursuer/Responder dynamic in your marriage when it comes to sex (and other areas). Recognize that it’s not wrong or right to be either one, you just have to be the best responder or pursuer that you can be.When it comes to confronting sexual desire differences, understand that the conflict is usually not about who likes sex more or whether or not one spouse loves and cares for the other. Rather, you each have attached a different meaning to sex.Recognize the “toxic cycle” that initiates when a Pursuer’s advances are interpreted as “pressure” and a Responder reacts by “withdrawing.” Next week, we’ll discuss some practical ways to recognize the toxic cycle, how to avoid it, and how to repair the damage.Please send your comments, questions and suggestions to [email protected] up for the 2020 Annual Marriage Retreat, September 24-26. Day Passes are still available: www.intimatecovenant.com/events/retreatCherishing,Matt & Jennwww.intimatecovenant.comCredits:Announcer — Daniel DeGarmoMusic — Jonathan DowSupport the show