#50: The only thing you can control is yourself

I share how therapy has helped me throughout adulthood—especially after a tough childhood, trouble regulating my nervous system, anger/reactivity, and taking years to recover from a major breakup. I describe a key lesson a therapist gave me when I complained that people always leave: instead of trying to stop others from leaving, I needed to build resilience for when they do. Over time, after enough romantic breakups, I learned to “roll with the punches,” even creating a podcast episode with 30 tips to survive the post-breakup period. I reflect on focusing on what I can control—my reactions, communication, and conflict resolution—rather than other people’s choices. I’m currently facing a personal challenge and coping differently now (journaling and recording instead of chain smoking), and I end by emphasizing that resilience is powerful and learnable.   00:00 Why I Needed Therapy 01:07 Breakups That Broke Me 02:24 People Always Leave 03:53 Building Resilience 05:30 Control What You Can 07:11 Acceptance and Heartbreak 07:53 Coping in Real Time 09:21 Final Takeaway *description written with the help of AI* Content mentioned in this episode: 1. Life Hack Your Break Up podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/2xPq2GyClcw0k5Ol176H5B?si=0a27179dd40e48b3 ***** ALL social media links (YouTube, podcasts, fan page, etc): ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://linktr.ee/TorontoUnicorn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ***** Sign up for my email newsletters to stay up-to-date on TorontoUnicorn news, events and swinger lifestyle resources: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://torontounicorn.kit.com/torontounicornemails⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ***** Get your free Swinger Lifestyle Starter Kit - learn what to expect, common mistakes to avoid, and how to walk into a sex-positive space without feeling out of place: 👉⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://torontounicorn.kit.com/dpodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ready to go deeper? Check out my full courses at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LevelUpWithTorontoUnicorn.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ***** DIRECT link to my explicit TorontoUnicorn fan page: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://OnlyFans.com/TorontoUnicorn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ BONUS content (behind the scenes, non-explicit) available now on my TorontoUnicorn Patreon page! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/c/TorontoUnicorn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ My personal website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TorontoUnicorn.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ --- Want to own something I wear, use, recommend? Or just see what hilarious and unique products I found worthy of sharing? 🤣 Check out my Amazon storefront! *affiliate links provide me with a small commission* 🇺🇸 Amazon storefront: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.amazon.com/shop/torontounicorn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 🇨🇦 Amazon storefront: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.amazon.ca/shop/torontounicorn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ --- Please rate this podcast 5 stars and leave a comment Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices