51 - No need to apologise for your feelings

No need to apologise for your feelings How often have you apologised for feeling upset, anxious, moody or emotional? Reached out to a friend because you needed advice or reassurance, only to say sorry for being a burden or ranting to them? Or the old favourite, saying you know others have it worse and adding a nice layer of guilt on top of your feelings? Your feelings are completely valid. And there is no need to apologise for having them. Your feelings are a signal that a need is or isn’t being met. When you approach your feelings like this it’s a much healthier and productive way of looking at them. Now maybe your feelings are a result of the narrative you’ve been telling yourself or because you’ve been looking at your situation through a very selective lens. In that case changing the way you look at things can really help. You’re also allowed to piss and moan with perspective! You can know that you’re lucky you’ve a roof over your head or access to clean water AND you can be upset because you miss your friends or have lost out on your holiday. Your feelings are personal to you, and they’re 100% legit based on your needs and how you’re interpreting the world around you. Once we acknowledge them we can then start working on figuring out what we need. But fighting them or feeling guilty for having them isn’t helpful.