51: What Women Need to Know About Divorce from a Mediator, with Ellen Morfei

In this episode, we welcome Pennsylvania-based divorce mediator Ellen Morfei. With years of professional experience in conflict resolution, Ellen has worked with many couples in getting to a good divorce. Ellen provides mediation, workshops, conflict coaching, facilitation, and consulting to businesses, individuals, families, and organizations.   She not only addresses a couple's specific issue, but also builds conflict competence to help them manage future conflict more productively. She also offers services to help prevent the development of unproductive conflict during challenging life transitions.   Listen in as Ellen dives deep into this crucial subject, as well as her biggest lessons learned along the way regarding relationships, money, and other juicy topics!   She explains who would most benefit from hiring a professional mediator, how to work with a mediator alongside a divorce lawyer, how to ensure a successful mediation by preparing well in advance, and the value of having a divorce mentor throughout this stressful process.   Key Topics: What Ellen does as a divorce mediator, and how to work with one alongside an attorney (1:46) How to choose a mediation-friendly attorney (6:00) Women, money, and divorce (10:50) "Who makes a good candidate for mediation?" (16:05) Ellen's approach to mediation and the type of relationship she wants to develop with couples (17:55) Addressing conversations around "fairness" during the divorce process (25:15) How to prepare for a successful mediation (29:59) "You have to advocate for yourself." (37:00) Finding a divorce mentor (40:05) Our closing thoughts (43:10)   Resources: The War of Roses Loretta Lynn - Rated "X" 1973 Learn more about Ellen's work with Progressive Conflict Solutions at www.progressiveconflictsolutions.com     If you like what you've been hearing, we invite you to subscribe on your favorite platform and leave us a review. Tell us what you love about this episode! Or better yet, tell us what you want to hear more of in the future. [email protected]    You can find the transcript and more information about this episode at www.takebackretirement.com.   Follow Stephanie on Twitter, Facebook, YouTube and LinkedIn.  Follow Kevin on Twitter, Facebook, YouTube and LinkedIn.