52. Ask a Man: Dating Rules, Falling in Love, and Finding “The One”

In this episode, Sam sits down with William(!!!) to answer your burning questions about the male brain in relationships. He’s really smart, so instead of it being cheeky and silly, it’s actually pretty deep. (Okay, it’s also a bit cheeky and silly.) They cover what men are looking for in a partner, expectation-setting in relationships, when to stop seeing other people (not that William has ever seen other people), the work you do on yourself to show up in a healthy relationship, how to find out if a guy is serious about you, bringing up the “official” conversation, how to know if you’re in love, and, perhaps most importantly, how to know if they’re “the one.” Listen to this episode if you want to know how to train your man to surprise you with flowers. Key moments: 05:00 How we met 06:19 The three meetings theory (similar to invisible string) 08:42 “You’re 23, they’re not the one” 12:04 When they start “looking” - from a man’s perspective 14:03 Becoming “ready” to find their person 15:34 Cab light theory vs. he can only be “ready” for the right person 16:22 Tinx’s box theory 18:52 Changing yourself for a man (literally vom) 19:50 William’s rules of dating 21:01 Why he might not text daily - from a man’s perspective 22:31 When you stop seeing other people 26:09 Setting expectations but not communicating them 28:26 What men are looking for in a partner 29:26 The work you do on yourself to show up in a healthy relationship 30:59 Relationship anarchy and expecting your partner to be everything to you (i.e. partner, best friend, therapist, etc.) 32:17 How to live in service without people-pleasing 37:14 How to tell if a guy is serious about you 41:38 How to bring up the “official” or “I love you” conversation 43:09 Saying “I love you” first 44:52 Compromise vs. changing for the other person 45:38 How to know if they’re “the one” 46:53 Is love a product of fate or choice? 48:36 How you know if you’re in love Join ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠WHOOP⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Follow along: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.instagram.com/lifeincapslock⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.tiktok.com/@lifeincapslock⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.youtube.com/@lifeincapslock⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Threads: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.threads.net/@lifeincapslock⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices