52: Avoidants DON'T Need Space... Here's What They ACTUALLY Need (This Changes Your Relationship)

You’ve been told: “Just give them space”... But that’s NOT the whole story ✶ And if you’re anxiously attached... You’ve probably felt like giving space only makes it worse 😮‍💨 Hi, I’m Jula — anxious attachment coach + podcast host 🖤 I’ve been where you are... spiraling after “I need time” texts And what I’ve learned? It’s not about giving more space... It’s about giving something else entirely 🧠    In this episode, I’ll show you: ...Why “space” isn’t enough ...What avoidants are actually craving (but don’t say out loud) ...And how to stop chasing — without abandoning yourself If you’ve ever felt like they pull away just when you get close... You NEED this conversation  ✨ Press play — what you’ll hear might flip your whole dynamic in the best way..   COURSES ON OFFER (beta round) 🖤 How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship in 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner) https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse   OFFERS: 🖤📱 ON SALE: "Stop Obsessing Over Texts in 21 Days or Less"  https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety     FREE: 🖤 FREE Attachment LIBRARY: https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach   CHAPTERS: 00:00 Intro 01:16 The Myth You've Been Sold 04:17 What Emotional Freedom Actually Looks Like 08:49 Where This Really Comes From 11:41 What You Can Do Instead - The Immediate Response 19:37 Identifying Root Causes of Anxiety: The Why-Why-Why Exercise 23:31 Make a decision 25:38 Challenge and Reframe Your Core Belief 27:37 How to REFRAME your Beliefs 29:01 Creating Emotional Freedom Together - Practical Actions 30:58 Building Your Capacity Gradually 33:59 Quick Summary     DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.   Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.