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EPISODE · Mar 4, 2026 · 13 MIN

#526 - Why You Chase Women But Don’t Enjoy Sex

from The Gary Gunn Show Podcast · host Gary Gunn

In this episode, I explain why you can feel a powerful urge to chase a woman but then feel underwhelmed once you actually sleep with her. The answer lies in neurochemistry. I break down the difference between wanting and liking, and how dopamine drives anticipation, fantasy, and pursuit. Often the chase produces a stronger chemical reward than the experience itself. I also talk about how this can lead men to become addicted to pursuit rather than genuine connection. Most importantly, I share how I think about regulating that dopamine spike so attraction does not control you and you can engage with women from a calmer, more grounded state. Learn more about my 1-1 coaching and digital courses here: https://socialattraction.co.uk/gary-gunn/ Join my newsletter: https://socialattraction.co.uk/daily-newsletter/ Subscribe to my YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/c/GaryGunn?sub_confirmation=1 This video is for entertainment purposes only. Any action you take upon the information provided is strictly at your own risk, and we will not be responsible for any losses or damages in connection with the use of this video. The selection of techniques, opinions, programs, products, services, tools, templates, or manuals is not a guarantee of income or success. You are fully responsible for the effort you put in and the results you achieve by following the information in this video. All content, materials, and techniques delivered are proprietary and cannot be used, disclosed, or duplicated without permission. This video is for informational purposes only and does not form a professional relationship. Visit our website if you wish to hire us on a professional basis. #datingadviceformen #datingtipsformen #datingcoachformen This video is owned by Social Attraction Limited and is protected by copyright. Unauthorised use—including reposting, stitching, duetting, reacting, or using this content for commentary or derivative work on any platform—is strictly prohibited. We reserve all rights and will take action against infringement.

In this episode, I explain why you can feel a powerful urge to chase a woman but then feel underwhelmed once you actually sleep with her. The answer lies in neurochemistry. I break down the difference between wanting and liking, and how dopamine drives anticipation, fantasy, and pursuit. Often the chase produces a stronger chemical reward than the experience itself. I also talk about how this can lead men to become addicted to pursuit rather than genuine connection. Most importantly, I share how I think about regulating that dopamine spike so attraction does not control you and you can engage with women from a calmer, more grounded state. Learn more about my 1-1 coaching and digital courses here: https://socialattraction.co.uk/gary-gunn/ Join my newsletter: https://socialattraction.co.uk/daily-newsletter/ Subscribe to my YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/c/GaryGunn?sub_confirmation=1 This video is for entertainment purposes only. Any action you take upon the information provided is strictly at your own risk, and we will not be responsible for any losses or damages in connection with the use of this video. The selection of techniques, opinions, programs, products, services, tools, templates, or manuals is not a guarantee of income or success. You are fully responsible for the effort you put in and the results you achieve by following the information in this video. All content, materials, and techniques delivered are proprietary and cannot be used, disclosed, or duplicated without permission. This video is for informational purposes only and does not form a professional relationship. Visit our website if you wish to hire us on a professional basis. #datingadviceformen #datingtipsformen #datingcoachformen This video is owned by Social Attraction Limited and is protected by copyright. Unauthorised use—including reposting, stitching, duetting, reacting, or using this content for commentary or derivative work on any platform—is strictly prohibited. We reserve all rights and will take action against infringement.

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