#53 - Even Though, We Will with Matthew Efird

What does it look like to keep choosing faith when God doesn't answer your prayers the way you hoped? This week Kimberly sits down with Matthew Efird, husband, father of four, and author of the bestselling book Even Though We Will, for a conversation about walking through the loss of his son Noah, who was diagnosed with Trisomy 13 in utero and lived for two days after birth in March 2020. Matthew opens up about the ten days between his son's diagnosis and getting a name for it, when he and his wife Hannah made a decision that became their family's anchor: "even though we will," a phrase pulled from Job that they leaned on before they even knew how the story would end. He walks through why they chose to carry the pregnancy despite knowing Noah wouldn't survive, what it was like handing his son over to hospital staff after his last breath, and the moment weeks later at a grocery store checkout that cracked his grief wide open in public. This episode isn't a neatly-resolved grief story. It's an honest look at what it actually takes to stay present with someone who's suffering, why most of us say the wrong thing with good intentions, and how Matthew and Hannah built a two-question framework that saved their marriage in the hardest season of their lives. In this conversation they cover: - Why they chose life for Noah even knowing his diagnosis was terminal - The two questions that carried Matthew and Hannah's marriage through grief - "Ask for forgiveness, not permission, to extend generosity" - Why grief is not just for you, and what it means to keep "seats open at the table" - The difference between using pain as a rod versus an open hand - What it means to "carry the weight" for a child who couldn't carry it himself 📌 Matthew Efird's links Book Link: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0GSC4YNTX Book Website: https://eventhoughwewill.com Personal site: https://matthewefird.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/efird72/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@PillarsofPurposePodcast LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mefird/ 📌 Connect with Kimberly Email: [email protected] 📌 The Heart Posture Collective → https://theheartposturecollective.com/?via=kimberly The Heart Posture Collective is an online community built by James and Trisha Fenimore (Christian Speakers, Authors, Ministry partners, and Mentors) that focuses on helping believers live their faith, not just show up at church on Sunday. Believers gather for coursework, daily devotionals and live events, all of which are recorded if you miss them. You also get real access to Trisha & James as your coaches. It's been genuinely transformative for a lot of people. Go check it out! #Trisomy13 #faiththroughloss #grievingwithfaith #childlosssupport #pregnancylossfaith #hopeafterloss #christiantestimony #supportinggrievingparents #christiangrief #trustingGodinsuffering