EPISODE · Aug 20, 2026 · 15 MIN
#532 | What Your Dating Standards Say About You
from Evolve Ventures · host Emilia Smith & Bianca Thomas
Send us Fan MailYour list was never really about them. It was always about you.In this episode, we unpack what dating standards actually reveal: the height requirement, the income bracket, the follower count, and the quiet belief underneath all of it that being chosen by the "right" person will finally make you feel worthy. We get into where these narratives come from, why low self worth gets externalized into requirements other people have to meet, the difference between a value and an insecurity wearing a value's clothing, and why so many people keep landing in the same relationship or no relationship at all. If you have ever pushed away someone good because they were available, this one is for you.Here's a related episode that builds on today's conversation: #494 | How To Set Goals In Therapy - https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/evolve-ventures/id1511831621?i=1000760417836Learn more about:🤝 Out of the Mud (OOTM) - "The Difference Between Avoidance and Self-Protection" - https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/IykObX8eR7ixJaQ-qqZogw#/registration📆 Evolve Group Coaching - https://evolveventurestech.com/evolve-group-coaching/📽️ Insightful films. Meaningful growth. Join our Evolve Movie Club - https://forms.gle/bBZUbFEeD2ijypCT7🌱 The #YouDoYou Therapy Program gives you support when and how you need it. No pressure. Just real help. Start your free 7-day trial today - https://buy.stripe.com/fZe8Avdfx8bW9gcfZcConnect with Emilia, Bianca & the EVOLVE VENTURES Community:Website: http://www.evolveventurestech.comInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/evolveventures/Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/EvolveVenturesTech (Public Page)Evolve Ventures Society (Private Facebook Group) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/457130589193794Emilia's IG - https://www.instagram.com/evolvewithemilia/Emilia's TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithemiliaBianca's IG - https://www.instagram.com/evolvewithbianca/Bianca's TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithbianca?_t=8gq3wqu4fAx&_r=1Connect with Emilia from Evolve Ventures for FREE: https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/free-evp-communityconnectShow notes: (0:00) Intro (1:30) Welcome to episode 532 (2:05) The distorted checklist we call standards (3:04) A client who pushed away a good match (4:07) Where these narratives come from (6:13) Looking outward for worth you never built (7:26) Here's what Matthew has to say about the Evolve Ventures community and how it has helped in his journey (8:13) The pedestal and the celebrity you assign (8:53) Bianca on her own narrow standards (10:07) Auditing your standards through your nervous system (11:35) Wanting to feel good enough (12:19) Final thoughts and episode suggestion (13:06) Outro***Leave them a 5-star review if you felt their energy, became inspired, or felt the value was added to your life in your EVOLUTION.(Stay tuned for this coming Monday's episode!)
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Send us Fan Mail Your list was never really about them. It was always about you. In this episode, we unpack what dating standards actually reveal: the height requirement, the income bracket, the follower count, and the quiet belief underneath all of it that being chosen by the "right" person will finally make you feel worthy. We get into where these narratives come from, why low self worth gets externalized into requirements other people have to meet, the difference between a value and an ins...
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