#533 | The Truth About Trying to be Happy All the Time

Send us Fan MailChasing happiness is the fastest way to miss your life. In this episode, we unpack why so many of us keep entering new jobs, new relationships, and new purchases expecting them to finally fix us, and why that pattern quietly repeats for years without ever getting named. Bianca opens with a client conversation that required real candor, and Emilia takes it back to first principles: what happiness actually is by definition, why we have been sold the idea that it is the best thing to feel, and what it costs us to treat a passing emotion as a permanent state.We get into the if-then narratives running underneath our decisions, the arrival fallacy, and the law of trade-offs. Emilia shares openly about a recent six-figure purchase and the values-based decision making behind it, and Bianca names the baseline sadness she has stopped apologizing for and started building her work on. The takeaway is not that you will never be happy. It is that grit, distress tolerance, and fulfillment are what actually build a life worth living, and happiness shows up as a byproduct along the way.Here's a related episode that builds on today's conversation: #428 | How to Create a Joy-Filled Life by Design, Not by Default - https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/evolve-ventures/id1511831621?i=1000722917711Learn more about:🤝 Out of the Mud (OOTM) - "The Difference Between Avoidance and Self-Protection" - https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/IykObX8eR7ixJaQ-qqZogw#/registration📆 Evolve Group Coaching - https://evolveventurestech.com/evolve-group-coaching/📽️ Insightful films. Meaningful growth. Join our Evolve Movie Club - https://forms.gle/bBZUbFEeD2ijypCT7🌱 The #YouDoYou Therapy Program gives you support when and how you need it. No pressure. Just real help. Start your free 7-day trial today - https://buy.stripe.com/fZe8Avdfx8bW9gcfZcConnect with Emilia, Bianca & the EVOLVE VENTURES Community:Website: http://www.evolveventurestech.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/evolveventures/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/EvolveVenturesTech (Public Page) Evolve Ventures Society (Private Facebook Group) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/457130589193794 Emilia's IG - https://www.instagram.com/evolvewithemilia/ Emilia's TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithemilia Bianca's IG - https://www.instagram.com/evolvewithbianca/ Bianca's TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithbianca?_t=8gq3wqu4fAx&_r=1Connect with Emilia from Evolve Ventures for FREE: https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/free-evp-communityconnectShow notes: (0:00) Intro (2:01) The client who cannot get out of his own way (6:20) First principles: why we chase happiness (8:45) What happiness actually means (11:36) Sold the narrative that happy equals better (14:46) If-then thinking and the arrival fallacy (17:05) Happiness as the anchor on the boat of life (18:53) Emilia invites listeners to Out of the Mud, the free live virtual event hosted on the last Wednesday of every month. (19:50) Sadness as the source of deeper connection (22:05) The truck purchase and the law of trade-offs (27:34) Chasing relief is costing you your life (30:42) Happiness as a byproduct, not a goal (33:23) Outro***Leave them a 5-star review if you felt their energy, became inspired, or felt the value was added to your life in your EVOLUTION.(Stay tuned for this coming Thursday's episode!)