#535 | Everything You Need to Know About Handling Rude People, Sarcasm and Microaggressions

Send us Fan MailNobody teaches you what to say when someone cuts you down and smiles while doing it. In this episode, we unpack the psychology behind rude people, sarcasm, and microaggressions, why a dysregulated nervous system sits underneath almost all of it, and the four step formula you can actually reach for in the moment.Emilia breaks down where your real training in this area came from: the family, culture, school, and social systems that quietly taught you what is acceptable to say and what you are allowed to say back. Bianca shares why believing everyone is inherently good can leave you defenseless, and opens up about a recent moment where she did not feel safe enough to use the very skills she teaches her own clients. Together they walk through pause, ask, share and set, and returning to your power, plus the identity beliefs that stop most people from ever using the tools at all. Fair warning, this one is explicit.Here's a related episode that builds on today's conversation: #426 | You Don't Need to Be the Boss to Change the Culture - https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/evolve-ventures/id1511831621?i=1000721917576Learn more about:🤝 Out of the Mud (OOTM) - "The Difference Between Avoidance and Self-Protection" - https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/IykObX8eR7ixJaQ-qqZogw#/registration📆 Evolve Group Coaching - https://evolveventurestech.com/evolve-group-coaching/📽️ Insightful films. Meaningful growth. Join our Evolve Movie Club - https://forms.gle/bBZUbFEeD2ijypCT7🌱 The #YouDoYou Therapy Program gives you support when and how you need it. No pressure. Just real help. Start your free 7-day trial today - https://buy.stripe.com/fZe8Avdfx8bW9gcfZcConnect with Emilia, Bianca & the EVOLVE VENTURES Community:Website: http://www.evolveventurestech.comInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/evolveventures/Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/EvolveVenturesTech (Public Page)Evolve Ventures Society (Private Facebook Group) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/457130589193794Emilia's IG - https://www.instagram.com/evolvewithemilia/Emilia's TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithemiliaBianca's IG - https://www.instagram.com/evolvewithbianca/Bianca's TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithbianca?_t=8gq3wqu4fAx&_r=1Connect with Emilia from Evolve Ventures for FREE:https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/free-evp-communityconnectShow notes: (0:00) Intro (2:19) Where you actually learned to handle rude people (4:07) The disservice of assuming everyone is good (5:23) None of this works without a regulated nervous system (8:40) Unconscious bias and where microaggressions come from (12:37) A workplace scenario to test yourself against (13:58) Bianca invites you to Out of the Mud, our free live virtual event hosted the last Wednesday of every month. (14:35) What panic does to your access to your tools (17:49) When a belief system becomes denial (19:29) Step one, pause (21:26) Step two, ask (23:05) Steps three and four, share, set, and return to your power (25:15) Outro***Leave them a 5-star review if you felt their energy, became inspired, or felt the value was added to your life in your EVOLUTION. (Stay tuned for this coming Monday's episode!)