#536 | Why Waiting to "Feel Like It" is Ruining Your Life

Send us Fan MailWaiting to feel like it is quietly costing you your life. Bianca and Emilia break down why the belief that motivation has to arrive before you take action is one of the most damaging stories keeping people stuck, using a full gallon jug and a hand full of marbles to make the cost of "waiting" impossible to ignore.In this episode, we unpack why waiting to feel like it is actually a perception problem wearing a feelings costume, why every minute spent waiting for motivation is a minute of your life you don't get back, and why identity, not inspiration, is what actually drives consistent behavior. Emilia and Bianca walk through why "fake it till you make it" is bullshit, what actually builds the kind of person who shows up anyway, and the one question to ask yourself about the cost of staying the same.Here's a related episode that builds on today's conversation: #526 How Self-Disciplined Are You, Really? - https://open.spotify.com/episode/4XQm929yZSO34JXGr9mrzz?si=hSfEKWP1R1afIZAunXaVWg Learn more about:🤝 Out of the Mud (OOTM) - "Why Change Feels So Uncomfortable (Even When You Want It)" - https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/IykObX8eR7ixJaQ-qqZogw#/registration 📆 Evolve Group Coaching - https://evolveventurestech.com/evolve-group-coaching/📽️ Insightful films. Meaningful growth. Join our Evolve Movie Club - https://forms.gle/bBZUbFEeD2ijypCT7🌱 The #YouDoYou Therapy Program gives you support when and how you need it. No pressure. Just real help. Start your free 7-day trial today - https://buy.stripe.com/fZe8Avdfx8bW9gcfZcConnect with Emilia, Bianca & the EVOLVE VENTURES Community:Website: http://www.evolveventurestech.comInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/evolveventures/Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/EvolveVenturesTech (Public Page)Evolve Ventures Society (Private Facebook Group) -https://www.facebook.com/groups/457130589193794Emilia's IG - https://www.instagram.com/evolvewithemilia/Emilia's TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithemiliaBianca's IG - https://www.instagram.com/evolvewithbianca/Bianca's TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithbianca?_t=8gq3wqu4fAx&_r=1Connect with Emilia from Evolve Ventures for FREE.  https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/free-evp-communityconnect Show Notes: 0:00 Why You’ll Never “Feel Like It” 0:15 Welcome to Evolve Ventures 1:45 Why Waiting for Motivation Is Costing You 3:38 The Real Reason We Procrastinate 5:12 Break the Problem Into Smaller Pieces 6:00 The Hidden Cost of Waiting 8:50 Motivation Usually Comes After Action 9:31 Why Motivation Has Become a Crutch 11:10 Identity Is More Powerful Than Motivation 13:27 Building a New Identity Through Action 14:37 Why Doing Hard Things Gets Easier 17:10 The Identity Conflict Holding You Back 18:05 “Fake It Till You Make It” Doesn’t Work 19:21 How You Actually Become That Person 20:01 Behavior Comes Before Confidence 20:33 Becoming Someone Who Does Hard Things 21:46 You Have to Do What You Don’t Want to Do 24:20 Ask Yourself: What Is the Cost of Staying the Same? 26:26 Stop Waiting for Feelings 27:25 Evolve Ventures Resources & Closing Leave them a 5-star review if you felt their energy, became inspired, or felt the value was added to your life in your EVOLUTION.(Stay tuned for this coming Monday's episode!)