# 55 I Tackle Shame and Blame with The Tested Man a Trauma Christian Life Coach

Shame is sneaky. It can sound like “I’m not good enough”, feel like a tight chest, and drive you straight into coping habits that promise relief but never deliver healing. We sit down with Jonathan Lewis, a men’s mentor and Orthodox Christian, to trace how anxiety, trauma, and the need to prove yourself can shape a life, and how that same life can be rebuilt with clarity, patience, and grace.We talk about the difference between symptom management and root-cause healing: why alcohol, pornography, scrolling, or even obsessive self-improvement can become self-soothing rituals; why the body remembers what the mind avoids; and how trauma often shows up as a nervous system trying to keep you safe long after the danger has passed. Jonathan shares practical ways to face emotions without becoming them, including the mindset shift that helps people step out of the storm and back into presence.The conversation also goes deep on shame, conditional love, and the labels we inherit in childhood, even when parents mean well. We explore blame, pride, and the hard work of forgiveness that moves from the head to the heart. Finally, Jonathan tells the story of a turning point through boxing, encountering a transformed Christian life, and discovering Orthodoxy as a coherent path where healing has a direction and mercy is lived, not just spoken.If you care about men’s mental health, trauma healing, addiction recovery, and Orthodox Christianity as a way of becoming fully human, you will find a lot to sit with here. Subscribe, share this with a friend who feels stuck, and leave us a review. What part of your own story are you ready to stop numbing and start healing?Drop us a lineSupport the showDo you or someone you know need or want Christian Life Coaching?Follow this link for a free chat to explore - https://linktr.ee/CoachJonah2