55. The True Cost of Saying 'Yes' When You Mean 'No' | People-Pleasing Hard Truths

Episode 55: How People-Pleasing Makes You UntrustworthyIf you've ever been labeled a "people pleaser"—or felt like saying no would make you a bad person—this episode is for you. Emily explores how constantly saying yes from a place of fear or obligation erodes trust in your relationships and with yourself. Through the lens of Internal Family Systems (IFS) and the Self-Trust Compass, this conversation invites you to see your people-pleasing part with compassion—while holding yourself accountable to your truth.In this episode:Why people-pleasing is a sign of broken self-trustThe difference between being "nice" and being truly kindHow your “yes” loses meaning when you can’t say “no”Compassionate insight into why the people-pleasing part existsA mindset shift to help you break the habit and build real trust✨ Share this episode with anyone struggling with people-pleasing or boundary-setting. It's time to make your yestrustworthy again.DEEPEN YOUR SELF-TRUST WORK:Get the books + more: The Self-Trust Marketplace1-1 Session with EmilyBuy You Can Trust Yourself on AmazonCONNECT WITH EMILY: Have questions or topics you'd like to hear about? Reach out and connect!SubstackInstagramEmail List This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit curiosityrising.substack.com/subscribe