55. Trauma Bonding Or Post-Divorce Adaptive Bonding Cycle?

When I read the new term and definition of Partner Adaptive Bonding Cycle created by my friend and colleague Hope Ray, LPC, CSAT, CHFP, CCPS, I felt like something landed in my body and my body liked it. A language, if you will, to explain what I had experienced in my previous marriage. I also started to see how this also continues to show up in many ways post divorce. In today's episode, I'm sharing a sub term that had also yet to be defined, and I wanted to define it– The Post-Divorce Adaptive Bonding Cycle (Post-Divorce ABC). This definition and model matters because understanding it can empower you to make choices and heal, especially if you've experienced betrayal and violence in your divorce. In todays episode I'm sharing the basic idea of this model with key components that qualify this. Key Components of PABC Post-Divorce ABC comprises: Attachment to unresolved issues and trauma. Emotional complexity: a mix of memories, trauma, and hope. Fear of change, impacting self-identity. Continued investment in the past. Fear of detachment affecting emotions and practical aspects. Impact on future relationships: trust issues and emotional reactions. Challenges in CO-Parenting Continued coercive control Join me today as I introduce this new model and your practice work from this episode is to. be curious as to how these key components might be showing up for you. Want more awareness around your lived experience in your previous relationship so you can be aware of those patters in future relationship? Book your Relationship Dynamic Assessment with me today. It's a power and fast way to see how all 8 domains in your relationship have been impacted. Work With Me: Dating From Within 3-day Workshop- October 12th-14th 2023- you don't want to miss this! Are you ready to take charge of your post-divorce journey? Whether you’re eager to dive back into dating or feeling apprehensive about it, this course is designed with YOU in mind. Dating From Within is all about getting to know YOU and being clear with yourself first, then you get to decide what dating experience you want to have with yourself. Maybe, just maybe, you might want to date someone else at some point too! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Monthly Q&A ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠- Divorce is not easy, but divorcing as a result of betrayal and or abuse makes healing a bit more complicated. Getting support is essential to you navigating this journey from a place of empowerment rather than fear, anxiety and stress running the show. Join certified life coach Amie Woolsey in a free group coaching session. Where you can come and ask questions and get help navigating your divorce. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Choose Recovery Divorce Support Group-⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ This support group is for those who are new to divorce and needing support from other women and help with basic processing and grounding. This is NOT a coaching group but will give you opportunities to learn tools to help you ease those triggers and trauma responses, gain clarity and starts creating safety for yourself in this journey. The first 12 weeks are FREE. To get your spot in the group or waitlist click HERE ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Body Love Class⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ - Free workshop to help you love your body again after betrayal. This is a self paces course that was recorded live and when you register you will get access to this recording a long with worksheets to help you along. Want to work with Amie? For a consultation click⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠