56. Devotion: Why women lose themselves in relationships, attachment & people pleasing

If you regularly lose yourself in other people’s energy, overthink relationships, obsess, people please or feel disconnected from yourself - this is self-abandonment.In this episode, we break down how to fix that through self-devotion - becoming deeply connected to your own body, emotions, needs, standards & internal world instead of consumed by everyone else externally.Most women were conditioned to monitor others instead of themselves. So you learned to fawn, adapt, over-give, suppress your truth, disconnect from your body & abandon yourself to feel safe, loved or chosen.I share my own journey from disordered eating, body image struggles, anxious attachment & emotional shutdown into embodiment, pleasure, feminine energy & self-responsibility - and why true healing is not just understanding yourself intellectually, but becoming devoted to how you actually feel.We talk about limerence, controlling strategies, emotional suppression, trauma, resentment, nervous system dysregulation & why your past pain keeps infecting your future reality when it goes unprocessed.This episode will help you understand why being deeply devoted to yourself is not selfish or arrogant - it’s the thing that stops you losing yourself, betraying yourself & searching for yourself in other people.Because when you stop abandoning yourself:you stop obsessing over people who are not right for youyou trust your body instead of controlling everythingyou stop needing validation to feel worthyyou experience more pleasure, intimacy, joy & self-expressionand you finally feel safe being fully yourselfBeing self-centred is not ego.It’s self-respect.Timestamps:04:13 My shift from disordered eating into embodiment & self-devotion07:00 Why women are conditioned to fear being ‘self-centred’16:50 Losing yourself in other people’s energy13:20 Self-abandonment, people pleasing & anxious attachment18:30 Limerence, obsession & emotional hyperfixation20:00 Controlling strategies used to manage emotions22:00 Self-abandonment, people pleasing & anxious attachment26:45 Trauma, resentment & suppressed emotions37:15 How your past pain infects your future reality39:30 Feminine energy, receiving & self-devotion42:05 Teaching people how to treat you through your standards47:12 Becoming fully expressed, sensual & emotionally freeThe Health Hun InstagramClick here to book a free call with OrlaThis episode covers: self-devotion, self-abandonment, anxious attachment style, limerence, people pleasing, feminine energy, embodiment, nervous system regulation, trauma healing, emotional regulation, sensuality, pleasure, self-worth, boundaries, food freedom, body image healing, emotional suppression, intimacy, self-expression