59. Bill Eddy – Dealing with High Conflict Personalities Part 1

Bill Eddy is the Training Director and Co-Founder of the High Conflict Institute, an award-winning consultancy and training firm for professionals looking to better understand and manage high conflict personalities in the workplace. He is the developer of the High Conflict Personality (HCP) Theory and is recognized as an international expert on managing disputes involving people with personality disorders. Bill is an attorney, a certified Family Law Specialist, and San Diego’s Senior Family Mediator at the National Conflict Resolution Center. He is the author of several articles and multiple books including High Conflict People in Legal Disputes, SPLITTING: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder, 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life, and Don’t Alienate the Kids. Bill joins me today to discuss the five types of toxic personalities that can ruin your life. We discuss how we can deal with high conflict personality types, the difference between personality disorders and people with HCP, and how someone can have a high conflict personality without having a personality disorder. We discuss what a “target of blame” is and how to avoid becoming a target. We discuss what it means to be a negative advocate and how it can encourage others to engage in disputes. We also discuss how your emotions can be contagious and how we can choose to use those contagious emotions positively or negatively as well as the benefits of waiting at least a year before tying the knot and marrying your partner. “Just like alcoholics are part of us, people with high conflict personalities are part of us and we have to learn how to manage them differently – but not reject them.” – Bill Eddy This week on The School for Good Living Podcast: Why Bill believes the meaning of life is to help othersWhy we need to constantly reflect on the type of personality we possess and the impact we have on othersWhy Bill decided to write a book on the 5 types of high conflict personalitiesWhy you shouldn’t tell someone that they have a high conflict personalityWhat is a ‘target of blame’ and why authority figures and the people we’re closest to are often the biggest targetsThe difference between high conflict personalities and people with personality disorders Why Bill believes people with high conflict personalities are becoming more prevalent in our societyWhat negative advocates are and how they impact the people around themHow negative advocacy can often be a learned behaviorComparing the five types of high conflict personalitiesConflict management strategies when dealing with people with HCPHow your emotions can be contagious and understanding unseen emotionsThe impact of positive self-talk and positive mental imaging techniquesHow to handle power-struggle scenarios What the 1-Year Guideline is and why he recommends couples to date for a full year before getting marriedWhy he believes the percentage of people with personality disorders and HCP are on the riseCan people with HCP and personality disorders change their personality and behaviorWhy people with antisocial personality disorder are the least likely to changeResources Mentioned: **The School for Good Living may receive commissions for purchases made through Amazon links in this post. The Big Book of Borderline Personality Disorder (Bpd Wellness) by Shehrina RooneyConnect with Bill Eddy: High Conflict InstituteFacebookLinkedInTwitterYouTubeBook: 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life: Identifying and Dealing with Narcissists, Sociopaths, and Other High-Conflict PersonalitiesThis episode is sponsored by Nexus IT Consultants Nexus IT Consultants offers world-class IT support and solutions to help companies of all sizes manage their information technology. Through hyper-responsive, white-glove IT support and services, Nexus IT can handle basic tasks like IT monitoring and maintenance to the more complex projects like digital transformation. To learn more about the services offered at Nexus IT and to schedule your free comprehensive consultation, visit NexusITC.net Subscribe, Rate & Share! Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of the School for Good Living Podcast, with your host, Bryan Miller. If you enjoyed this episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts to subscribe and leave us a rating and review. Don’t forget to visit our website, like us on Facebook, and follow us on Twitter, Instagram, and LinkedIn. And be sure to share your favorite episodes with your friends and colleagues on social media to inspire others to improve their lives and reach their full potential.The post 59. Bill Eddy – Dealing with High Conflict Personalities Part 1 first appeared on School for Good Living Podcasts.