59. Self-Hate, Rage & the Real Work of Recovery with Tommy Morris

What if the first voice you hear in the morning tells you you're worthless? This episode goes beyond addiction, into belonging, rage, and the fight to feel worthy. Tommy Morris returns for part two of our raw, real, and transformational conversation and this time, we're diving into the messy middle of recovery. The shame. The resistance to love. The desperate need to belong. If you've ever woken up with a heavy head and thought, "What am I even doing here?" this episode is for you. We're talking about what it really means to heal the beliefs that kept you stuck. The ones that say you're unlovable, unworthy, too much. And we're walking straight into the tender truth: that you can build new belonging. But only when you're brave enough to let people in. Tommy doesn't hold back about the rage, the knee-jerk reactions, the moment he nearly became a pimp (yes, really), and how picking up the phone saved his life. Again and again. I'll be honest, this one gave me goosebumps. In part two of my conversation with Tommy, we move from chaos to clarity. From self-pity as a comfort blanket to the unshakable power of human connection. You'll hear how Tommy rewrote the story of who he thought he had to be - tough, invulnerable, always on guard and learned to accept love, even when it made him squirm. We talk about his daily rituals, the friends who became family, and why saying "I'm lonely" can be the most courageous thing a person in recovery will ever do. This isn't just about addiction, it's about identity, trust, and learning how to belong without betraying yourself. If you're in a funk, spiralling in your head, or scared to reach out, this episode will meet you where you are and remind you: you're not alone. And you never have to be again. What You'll Learn: • How to catch your thoughts before they spiral into shame • What real support looks like and why it often starts with strangers • The surprising reason we resist affirmation (even when we crave it) • Why old habits feel like safety, and how to build new 'warm blankets' • How group belonging can rewire your relationship with trust • The mindset shift that helps you trade judgment for curiosity Resources & Links:Need support with addiction or recovery?  You are not alone. Start here: Narcotics Anonymous - https://na.org Alcoholics Anonymous - https://aa.org Listen & Subscribe: Don't miss the final part of Tommy's journey next week, follow the show on Apple or Spotify and get new episodes as soon as they drop. Love what you're hearing? Here's what one listener said about part one: "I cried listening to Tommy's story. The honesty hit me in the gut, I felt less alone."   This is your reminder that you don't need fixing, you just need tools. And I'm here with you, every step of the way.   This episode was produced by Key Step Support - www.keystepsupport.com