596 | What You Didn't Know About Resiliency

In this episode, I am sharing some takeaways from a book I am reading on resiliency. The book is called "The 5 Practices of Highly Resilient People", by Dr. Taryn Marie Stejskal, and I am only part way through and the concept is so freaking powerful. It starts with asking yourself "what story would people think I was crazy, if they knew about me?" That is the vulnerability story that builds resistance and also builds resiliency. In today's episode we discuss: 1) The practice of vulnerability is a foundational piece of resilience. To allow yourself to be vulnerable is to allow your inside self, your doubts, fears, insecurities and your authentic self to be seen by the outside world. Can you allow it to be consistent, aka, the same person? When it is the same person that the world sees, this is called congruence, so the practice of vulnerability is a lifelong practice of letting our inner and outer world be congruent with each other. 2) The more congruent we can be, the more we can actually handle hard times of challenge without burning up a ton of energy trying to do or be something that we are not. 3) There are 3 main fears that people experience with vulnerability, and Dr. Taryn calls this Vulnerability Bias, and it is the fear that if we let people see our true authentic selves, they will not like us; they might not love us; or they might leave us. This keeps us in a cage that we are in by choice, holding the key and not allowing ourselves out of. Vulnerability has the ability to be a strength and a superpower, instead of a weakness. That is how it becomes a pillar of resiliency and a muscle we are continuously building. Join the OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification https://www.marshavanw.com/outspoken2023 Connect with us on Patreon https://patreon.com/ownyourchoicesownyourlife INFINITE Coaching Package https://www.marshavanw.com/offers/Y8FLccAH/checkout Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of "When She Stopped Asking Why". She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse that tore her family unit apart. Marsha has been published 7xs, most recently with her co-platform, Every Body Holds A Story, and she is on a mission to continue to help women and men to speak, share and publish their stories. Through her tools, OUTSPOKEN NLP certification, programs, coaching, and podcast, Marsha teaches the power of Radical Responsibility and Owning Your Choices in your own life. She empowers people how to heal and own their stories, be conscious leaders and build platform businesses that create massive impact. Mentioned in this episode:QUIZOUTSPOKEN AD QUIZ https://nlp.marshavanw.com/ OUTSPOKEN August Cohort: https://www.marshavanw.com/nlp