6 Affair Motives

Not all affairs start for the same reason. Discover the motives that drive infidelity and how each shapes the road to healing.Why do people have affairs? In this episode of The Recovery Room, Tim Tedder explores six common motives behind infidelity—the Alarm, Exit, Quest, Revenge, Impulse, and Habit affairs. Drawing on illustrations and real-life examples, Tim explains how each motive takes shape, how it can change over time, and why understanding the “why” matters for healing.You’ll also learn what each motive reveals about the work that needs to be done for recovery and how to protect your relationship from future harm. Whether you’re the betrayed or the unfaithful partner, this conversation offers clarity, direction, and hope.EPISODE NOTES00:00 Introduction02:30 Alarm Affair04:25 Exit Affair06:00 Quest Affair08:00 Revenge Affair09:15 Impulse Affai10:30 Habit Affair11:55 Questions to Ask YourselfLINKS & EXTRASDownload: 6 Motives Guide (PDF)Online Courses (Coaching included)Need personal help? Schedule a Session with one of our coaches.