6. Struggles and Comebacks

In this vulnerable, funny, & practical episode, Kathy shares some relatable true stories about people’s reactions to her having one child. She offers thoughts on how to deal with uncomfortable conversations, normalizes the stages of grief for those going through them, and suggests a wide variety of comebacks and responses to the nosy, well-meaning folks who just can’t get the hint. Content notice: this episode very briefly mentions miscarriage. It also alludes to “triangle families” but we recognize that not all listeners are in such families (2 parents + 1 kid), and we welcome all. Episode also says “we as women” at one point; and again, all are welcome. Here’s what’s covered: [0:40] Kathy tells a personal (but pretty universal) story about being questioned on not having more children at a party. [4:50] Discussion of the natural grieving process, particularly with regard to “perceived loss” (loss of opportunity or what we feel we’re supposed to do or have). [7:10] Going more specifically through the concept of the grieving process for the parent of an only child (not by choice). [9:00] What does it look like to accept and begin to make peace with having an only child? [11:10] List of classy and fun comebacks for shutting down some of those people who just “have to know” when you’re having another one. Got ideas or want to be on the show? Email us at [email protected]. Join our Facebook group, One and Done: Raising an Only Child, Not a Lonely Child.