61. 3 Ways to Feel Calmer When You Can't Control What's Coming

Ever found yourself spiralling over something that hasn't even happened yet? You're not alone. Sometimes, the most stressful part of change isn't the event itself, it's the anticipation. That space where nothing's happened yet, but your mind is running worst-case scenarios on a loop. In this episode, I'm sharing three specific tools that helped me move through one of those seasons: the weeks leading up to my son Jonah's big move to Los Angeles. While I was thrilled for him, I also felt completely ungrounded. And it wasn't the day he left that was hardest; it was the waiting. If you've ever micromanaged your way through stress, replayed conversations in your head, or mistaken anxiety for intuition… this conversation is going to help you soften your state, so your thoughts and actions can follow. This episode will help you: • Break the habit of managing everyone else's emotions just to feel safe • Interrupt the mental dress rehearsals that keep you stuck in worry • And most importantly, get clear on what actually helps you find calm What You'll Learn / Episode Takeaways: • The #1 reason anticipation often feels worse than the actual event • Why anxiety isn't always intuition—and how to tell the difference • 3 tools to calm your state when you're spiralling: 1.  Breathe differently (the 5-5-7 method I swear by) 2.  Move your body (even in winter!) 3.  Talk it through with someone safe • How the "pause before strategy" changed the way I parent (and coach) Why your state of being comes first, and how everything else flows from there Resources & Links: Sign up for my weekly newsletter and don't miss weekly actionable steps to a calmer life https://jennymcoaching.com/resources/ Listen & Subscribe CTA: Let's make calm your new habit, subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify so you never miss a weekly reset. Remember: You don't have to fix yourself. You just need tools. And when you learn how to meet the moment you're actually in, everything shifts. Be gentle with yourself. I'm rooting for you.