61: Make Friends with the Addict Part of Your Brain | Quit Porn Using 3 Evidence-based IFS Principles

Today, you're going to use 3 evidence-based IFS principles to learn how to quit porn by making friends with the addict part of your brain.IFS (Internal Family Systems) therapy is a powerful framework for overcoming addiction. It takes a non-traditional approach that has been studied and utilized for 40 years, and has been shown to be highly effective. Using this approach, you'll discover how to make peace with the part of you that has consistently led you to porn addiction - this part that creates destruction in your life right now. You’re going to learn how to make it your ally, your best friend, something that actually helps you rather than hurts you. If that sounds strange, don't worry—I’ll explain exactly how this works. If you’re like I was during the many years I was addicted to porn, you’ve likely become tired and frustrated with this addict part of your brain that keeps acting against you. You've been fighting it and trying to shut it up. In order for you to quit porn, your frustration and fighting needs to end, and you need to become connected with this addict part of you, and see it with more clarity and understanding. Only then can you redirect it down a positive path, and overcome porn addiction. The label “Porn Addict” does not define youYou’re a good man. I want to say that upfront. I remember feeling worthless, like I was a terrible person and that's why I couldn't stop porn. You might think, "Jake, that's not true. I'm a bad person. Look at everything I've done." I used to tell myself those things too. There was a time I wanted to take my own life. And I came out of it, and am a better person because of those struggles.You just have some habits that aren’t serving you or the people around you. You have this part of you, this addict part, that takes control sometimes. Instead of the real you—the good you—being in the driver’s seat. This addict part takes over, leaving you in the backseat wondering, “What’s wrong with me? Why can’t I control myself? Why do I keep doing this to my wife and kids? Why do I know better but not do better?”You are destined for a greater life. You just need the right tools and strategies. You'll learn them in today's episode. BUILD THE NO MORE PORN LIFESTYLEFREE WORKSHOP: The 8 Keys to Lose Your Desire for PornFREE EBOOK: The 10 Tools to Conquer Porn CravingsJoin My Email NewsletterIntensive Porn Addiction Recovery ProgramSchedule a Free ConsultationMORE ARTICLESStop Porn Cravings | 7 Tools to Overcome Fantasizing & Lust HabitsThe 4 Root Causes of Porn AddictionHow to Help Someone with a Porn Addiction in 3 Steps8 Rules to Get You 3 Months Sober from PornTrauma, Attachment, Shame & Porn AddictionSupport the showNo More Desire