63: Creating A Fulfilling, Satisfying Sex Life: Emotional Security and Sexual Intimacy with Paige Bond

Do you want a fulfilling love and sex life, but find yourself in never ending fights and avoiding intimacy altogether? This is episode goes over crucial conversations you need to get your sex and love life back on track.  Welcome to episode, "63: Creating A Fulfilling, Satisfying Sex Life: Emotional Security and Sexual Intimacy with Paige Bond." In this episode, Katie Ziskind was a guest on the "Stubborn Love" podcast. Key takeaways from this episode: How important communication is in enhancing sexual intimacy between partners What role foreplay has in a fulfilling sexual experience and how time can vary for a partner’s needs What aftercare is and why it’s just as important as foreplay How couples can address and overcome mismatches in their need for physical touch "Sometimes we grow up in a strict conservative and religious upbringing, where we get no education on sex, and then we also get misinformation. Like sometimes we learn that like sex toys are bad or masturbation is bad and it's like none of those things are inherently bad. We just don't learn about how they can be tools to learn about ourselves or to build desire." "We're very groomed in society to like, You know, pay the bills or like go grocery shopping and you know, take the kids to soccer practice and those are beautiful things that are publicly socially acceptable but you know, we're not taught from a young age: hey, like, let's talk about what areas on your partner's body that they really like touched or what areas do you like touched and how can you vocalize that." "Porn also doesn't show aftercare. So, aftercare is just as important as foreplay. It's, a time for bonding and connection and taking care of each other and nurturing each other after a sexual experience that really helps with balancing the elevated chemicals of dopamine, serotonin, and oxytocin in the brain." Paige Bond hosts the Stubborn Love podcast, is a Licensed Marriage Therapist, and a Polyamory Relationship Coach. Her mission is to help people-pleasing millennials navigate non-monogamy so they can tame their jealousy and love with ease. Her own journey from feeling lonely, insecure, and jealous to feeling empowered and reassured is what fuels her passion to help other people-pleasers to conquer jealousy and embrace love. Katie Ziskind specializes in helping disconnected couples who want to work together after high conflict fights, affairs, sexual avoidance, and sexual rejection to develop a foundation of emotional connection, trust, love, and gain sex positive skills to understand foreplay, sexual pleasure, rebuild sexual desire, connect to their sexual, erotic playful side.  Katie helps couples feel safe and excited emotionally and sexually about growing together. She gives you a safe place to talk about how your strict, conservative, religious upbringing has lead to feelings of shame, guilt, fear, avoidance, lack of satisfaction, and anxiety around sex and shift into reconnecting to sexual pleasure. She helps couples get familiar and comfortable talking about sex and gain sex positive education.  Katie Ziskind is a sex positive, LGBTQIA+, queer affirming relationship coach, certified sex therapy informed professional, and Gottman level two trained marriage specialist. Her mission is to help you feel more comfortable talking about emotional expression, gain emotional intimacy skills, and feel confident talking about your sexual needs, sexual expectations, erotic desires, and fantasies with your partner or partners. Katie Ziskind loves helping couples break cycles of emotional distance and sexual avoidance, and develop emotional connection and rebuild sexual desire and sexual intimacy.  You can build an emotionally secure, loving, playful, and passionate bond and healthy sex life by working with her at WisdomWithinCt.com. This episode is no replacement for seeking professional help.