#63 - Dr Fiona Vera-Gray / Women talk porn

For this episode we were lucky enough to be joined by Dr. Fiona Vera-Gray, one of the UK’s leading feminist academics working on sexual violence, and the Deputy director at the Child and Women Abuse Studies Unit at London Metropolitan University. Earlier this year, Fiona published her book, Women on Porn, where she interviewed 100 women on their experiences with pornography – how they first encountered it, how they consume it, how it has affected their sex lives and relationships, what they like and what they don’t. Toshi and Fiona spoke about what inspired the book, how people have responded to it, how porn impacts our sex lives and the conflicting feelings that many women have towards their porn use.  Check out Fiona here: https://www.fionaveragray.com/ Find Women on Porn here: https://www.fionaveragray.com/book-women-on-porn.html -----------------Timestamps:  00:00 – Intro  01:14 – What kicked off the book?  02:58 – What are sexual scripts?  04:29 – How does porn impact our sex lives?  06:26 – The problem with the Fast and Furious analogy  08:03 – Balancing regulation and privacy  09:49 – Removing the judgement from the conversation 13:33 – It’s not as simple as pro-porn or anti-porn 15:34 - What women say about their first sexual experiences  17:30 – Advice if you feel conflicted about your porn use  22:05 – How people have responded to Women on Porn  24:00 – What positive impacts can porn have? 27:32 – Fiona’s challenges working in this space  29:24 – Men’s responses to her work  30:51 – Supporting young people  32:50 – Women’s responses to Fiona’s work 34:32 – Feeling validated by other women's experiences 36:00 – What about feminist/ethical porn?  38:09 - How our sexual desires are shaped by culture  40:26 – Conclusion  -----------------  Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy.  Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.