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EPISODE · May 23, 2026 · 53 MIN

#63 How to Receive Love Without Losing Yourself with Lorina

from Becoming Secure with Magsmindset

In this episode, I’m joined by Lorina Manzanita, a somatic intimacy coach and trauma resolution practitioner, to explore how attachment patterns and developmental trauma get encoded in the body and shape our relationships. We talk about why empaths often self-abandon, people-please, and ignore their own needs, and how mindfulness and somatic awareness can build agency, boundaries, and healthier intimacy. Lorina explains implicit memory in the first 18 months of life, the balance of connection and differentiation in secure attachment, and why attachment can differ with each parent. We unpack intermittent positive reinforcement (“pigeon brain”) and why inconsistent love becomes addictive, plus how breakups can feel like death yet lead to liberation when supported by self-compassion, community, and resourcing. We also discuss eros as a life force, pleasure, and the power of gratitude and asking directly for what you need.Website: www.LorinaManzanita.comNourished: The Neuroscience of Receiving Beautifully www.integratingeros.com/nourished-mini-course00:00 Meet Lorina02:00 Wounded Healer Origin05:03 Somatic Intimacy Basics07:39 Mindset Versus Body10:03 Secure Attachment Foundations12:13 Different Parents Different Styles17:20 Pigeon Brain Love Pattern22:57 Building Real Security26:52 Breaking the Trauma Bond30:26 Grief Feels Like Dying31:21 Seven Attempts to Leave33:10 Finding Real Safety35:02 Triggers and Resilience36:54 Surrender and Worthiness38:51 Rewiring Limiting Beliefs39:59 Asking Men Directly40:45 Mending the Dad Bond44:39 Eros Life Force Energy46:37 Nature as Resourcing48:05 Gratitude and God49:54 Course Plug and Farewell Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, I’m joined by Lorina Manzanita, a somatic intimacy coach and trauma resolution practitioner, to explore how attachment patterns and developmental trauma get encoded in the body and shape our relationships. We talk about why empaths often self-abandon, people-please, and ignore their own needs, and how mindfulness and somatic awareness can build agency, boundaries, and healthier intimacy. Lorina explains implicit memory in the first 18 months of life, the balance of connection and differentiation in secure attachment, and why attachment can differ with each parent. We unpack intermittent positive reinforcement (“pigeon brain”) and why inconsistent love becomes addictive, plus how breakups can feel like death yet lead to liberation when supported by self-compassion, community, and resourcing. We also discuss eros as a life force, pleasure, and the power of gratitude and asking directly for what you need.Website: www.LorinaManzanita.comNourished: The Neuroscience of Receiving Beautifully www.integratingeros.com/nourished-mini-course00:00 Meet Lorina02:00 Wounded Healer Origin05:03 Somatic Intimacy Basics07:39 Mindset Versus Body10:03 Secure Attachment Foundations12:13 Different Parents Different Styles17:20 Pigeon Brain Love Pattern22:57 Building Real Security26:52 Breaking the Trauma Bond30:26 Grief Feels Like Dying31:21 Seven Attempts to Leave33:10 Finding Real Safety35:02 Triggers and Resilience36:54 Surrender and Worthiness38:51 Rewiring Limiting Beliefs39:59 Asking Men Directly40:45 Mending the Dad Bond44:39 Eros Life Force Energy46:37 Nature as Resourcing48:05 Gratitude and God49:54 Course Plug and Farewell Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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